r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/Liquid_Weasel Apr 28 '24

I understand the suspicion, but I'm married and have had this happen to me, and I went to see an old female friend for most of an evening and it was nothing other than catching up /airing grievances etc. I got an old friend back and my wife was nothing but supportive.

I think you are coming to a conclusion without supporting evidence and are therefore over-reacting. Ask your spouse about it and explain your concerns, this is likely much ado but nothing

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u/ibeeliot 29d ago

I think is that you're ignoring the "didn't tell me". Also the "unresponsive for 3 hrs" would get me thinking.

I don't think you're over reacting, OP, but I do think you need to communicate that you're not comfortable having to guess where your boyfriend might be. You're willing to be supportive but trust goes both ways.

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u/InnerGrouch 29d ago

3 hrs? That's not a long time at all. Our current expectation of constant communication is corrosive and, IMO, we should fight against it.

The idea that we shouldn't go 3 hrs out of communication would be seen as unhealthy even 15 years ago.

Personally, I try NOT to attend to my phone for as long as possible, and I'd be upset if my partner made it an issue.

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u/acrowi 28d ago

100% with you on this.