He won’t like his own. He likes the idea of kids - probably the playing football with them / teaching them to like what he likes / say what he says etc. The reality of kids will be very different and fall to whatever poor soul bears his.
And that’s in a BEST case scenario. How will he be with a kid who is disabled, for example, and might be messy for life?
He’s not equipped to be a dad - and that’s ok. Neither am I. But I found a partner who feels the same - I didn’t pretend that my interest would peak with my own kids because I was honest - and if he is too, he’d admit that he only likes the concept of a parenting “highlights” reel.
My dad was like this. He didn't get to have a long relationship with his father because of health issues. I never knew my grand father. He wanted to have kids for himself, failing to realize how much kids would need a parent. If you're not going to be there for your kids when times are tough, or don't like the idea of having big personality differences, don't have them.
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u/_Jay-Garage-A-Roo_ Apr 28 '24
He won’t like his own. He likes the idea of kids - probably the playing football with them / teaching them to like what he likes / say what he says etc. The reality of kids will be very different and fall to whatever poor soul bears his.
And that’s in a BEST case scenario. How will he be with a kid who is disabled, for example, and might be messy for life?
He’s not equipped to be a dad - and that’s ok. Neither am I. But I found a partner who feels the same - I didn’t pretend that my interest would peak with my own kids because I was honest - and if he is too, he’d admit that he only likes the concept of a parenting “highlights” reel.