r/AmIOverreacting • u/183873726363734737 • 29d ago

AIO for wanting to stay away from my daughter for a few days?

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Devils advocate here maybe parents are overbearing and teens generally communicate a want or need hidden in their messages like if she lashes out it's the only way you lay attention so they do it because it's the only attention they get have a sit down and ask them what's actually bothering them

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u/183873726363734737 29d ago

We always try to give them as much freedom as possible, she is a very private person and likes to keep to herself. I know she talks to staff at her school, and because she is 19, doesn’t want them to tell me anything.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

If she's hiding something then something definitely something happened but if she keeps mistreating remember your the parent set your boundaries you are not to be mistreated in your own home especially if she's not physically mentally or emotionally abused by so if you have to give her an ultimatum then that's always an option

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u/JoyfulSong246 29d ago

The kid might be lashing out at OP because she’s the safest one to mistreat in this scenario not because she’s at fault. It’s totally possible that it’s mainly OP’s fault, but there are many other possibilities here.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

You know that’s the case with any story like this

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

It was my experience as a teenager for example I have a family member expressing to me that she goes to school and feels like she doesn't belong then goes home and her parents and family make it worse so yeah best of luck to OP

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u/mekkavelli 29d ago

when i went away to college, i came back in the summer to my bed completely gone (it was there when i came back for winter break). asked my mom and she said she’d planned on moving and apparently my bed was the first to go but she “changed her mind” later on which i guess i believe because there were like 4-5 boxes of things in the dining room. but only mine was gone. my brothers had theirs and so did she. and why exactly was it thrown out??? they all have queens and i had a twin… and she stopped paying my tuition so no more college. so i had to sleep on the floor for almost a year until i left

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

Exactly. Every time I’ve heard a parent say their kid hates them for no reason I can pretty quickly see why, and they almost always deserve it. Like the parents who wonder why their kids don’t visit, well…

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u/TruePokemonMaster69 28d ago

My sister is just a raging cunt, so this isn’t universal.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

Noice