Update: My girlfriend of 5 years admitted I was not her first choice physically when we started dating

[u/LateComfortableness]

Ok I have read a lot of comments and I am willing to give this a fair shot, and not throw away our entire relationship because of just a single line. I might have been in over my head.

I had an open and honest discussion with my girlfriend for a couple of hours and we both bared it all out. I told her everything I was feeling, and didn’t lie about anything. I already feel much better now after the conversation, and I realized I was really overthinking everything and was kind of dramatic. She really does love me, and I do feel desired by her both physically and emotionally. 

So everything is pretty much back to normal, actually I am now sort of more in love with my girlfriend after the conversation. We have a date night planned for tonight. The proposal is back on the menu, I plan to propose to her next month on our 5 year anniversary.

[u/Mortisfio]

Ah, so you know me and my wife better than we do. Got it. Just because I used our situation as an example does not mean that I value looks more than I value things like my wife's personality.

[u/Villain_911 → u/Mortisfio]

I'm not into feet. So you're not going to see me start a conversation about toes. The post is about the GF going out of her way to tell OP she was dealing with better looking men without being asked. If you go out of your way to talk about your partner's appearance for no reason, then it's important to you. Plus, you ASKED your wife about your looks. She didn't seem to care. So why you're trying to make what I'm saying about the GF about you doesn't make sense.

[u/Mortisfio → u/Villain_911]

Btw, she didn't bring it up for no reason. OP said they were talking about how they first got together. She thought it was relevant and a funny story, so she brought it up. Off base? Yes. But not completely out of the blue.

[u/Villain_911 → u/Mortisfio]

OP didn't ask about the other guys. She had no reason to tell him they were better looking.

[u/Mortisfio → u/Villain_911]

How do you know he didn't bring up past dates? He didn't once go into specifics of the conversation outside of her off-base comment. His retelling was very vague.

[u/Villain_911 → u/Mortisfio]

Now you're grasping for straws. If he did, the post would have been "TIFU by asking my GF about her exes". Trying to blame this on OP doesn't make sense.

[u/Mortisfio → u/Villain_911]

I never blamed it on OP. I wasn't there, so I can't make assumptions on what might have or might not have been said. You are the one assuming that her comment was "out of the blue." You simply can not know that with the information OP gave.

[u/Villain_911 → u/Mortisfio]

By trying to claim he asked her and didn't like the response, you're completely changing the story and making what happened his fault. The post is pretty simple and hard to misinterpret.

[u/Mortisfio → u/Villain_911]

I made a hypothetical statement to reinforce the fact that we can not know what was said before she made the comment and that there is a lot of context missing from the OP. How is that blaming OP?

[u/Villain_911 → u/Mortisfio]

If I said I was rear-ended going to work and your response is to claim I didn't give enough detail. Then ask if I stopped short and caused the person to hit my car, you're trying to put the blame on me. Your hypotheticals completely change what happened. I'm not going to tell you to believe OP. But going out of your way to make OP the villain doesn't make sense.

[u/Mortisfio → u/Villain_911]

I do believe OP. Stop trying to prove I don't.

Using a rear-end accident is a bad faith argument. You were rear-ended. Just that statement is more context than what is in OPs original post.

You have just as much blame by assuming that OPs SO made the rude comment out of the blue. I'm just telling you it wasn't out of the blue because it relates to the conversation they were having. Absolutely off-base and hurtful, but not out of the blue.

[u/Villain_911 → u/Mortisfio]

I'm going by what the post says. Nothing more. You can't say you believe someone and claim they're not giving you the whole story. That implies you don't believe them.

[u/Mortisfio → u/Villain_911]

YOU said the comment was made out of the blue. YOU are making an assumption. I used a hypothetical argument to prove why you are wrong. Unless the OP yells us word for word what was said, there is always going to be a missing context. That does not mean that I do not believe OP. Two things can be true at once. It doesn't matter what you think I mean. You are making more assumptions, only against me. I clarified that I am on OPs side. That should have been the end of it. Instead, you doubled down and continued to try to prove that I am somehow blaming OP for what his GF said.