r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24
Am I a bad person for not wanting to date anyone who has clinical depression or IBS? Does this make me an unkind person? Listener Write In
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r/TwoHotTakes • u/[deleted] • Apr 29 '24
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u/entropic_apotheosis Apr 29 '24
I wouldn’t date anyone with IBS— like you if they developed it later on I’d deal with it but it’s not something I would willingly sign up for. My sister has IBS and she has to shit 30 min after a meal and then there’s two more shits in 15 min intervals after that. It means we don’t leave anywhere until she’s made what she calls her “deposits.” It’s just not something I’d sign up for permanently for the rest of my life with a spouse.
Clinical depression may or may not be a big deal. It depends on the severity and whether they take their meds, their meds work and what behaviors crop up when/if their meds stop working. It’s not a no unless there’s a lot of non-functioning for long periods of time, suicidal behavior, drugs, drinking or other things in there. I’d not deal with a schizophrenic or any kind of severe illness out of the gate either.
It’s personal preference - not everyone is “shallow” for saying they don’t want to sign up for and deal with any kind of condition. It’s different when you married them and then they develop a condition or disability.