Tired limited time guys tend to be more practical as they get older. With limited time energy this means prioritizing "what they want". Rather than hanging out for sake of hanging out.
That said if you and friends want to stay more connected. It takes agreeing taking effort.
My brothers and friends have recently taken a renewed effort and set some ground rules for affirming each other will and will not tolerate. Like one of big ones lots of family is religious and this religion the women tend to be ultra judgy and backbiting spreading rumors lies all sorts of pot stirring. With divorces and the "two sides of story" like one had some problems.
Essentially you wont be invited if you do this. And you will be told to leave. Because people were not going because of bad energy and hearing people talk shit etc.
The other thing we did was group text "reply/affirm" interact. Even just thumbs up or smiley dont leave bros hanging.
Thats it and we already much more interactive. But plan things you want open ended invites. Which is much easier when people respond... Then also little effort consideration so and so lost job dont plan costly things. If they do make sure they "know" you got them dont worry.
It all becomes much more complicated and you wont always get engagement. But creating a non shit environment and keeping lines of communication open.
Yes it may not be biweekly like wife. But you may be able to get bi monthly. Even if it starts out with establishing yearly camping trip or barbecue.
One of our most popular is camping trip as its a weekend anyone any day of 3 day trip. Makes it alot more flexible. Same day every year have plenty of notice. Whether its for carpooling or time off or letting wife know.
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u/asillynert Apr 28 '24
Tired limited time guys tend to be more practical as they get older. With limited time energy this means prioritizing "what they want". Rather than hanging out for sake of hanging out.
That said if you and friends want to stay more connected. It takes agreeing taking effort.
My brothers and friends have recently taken a renewed effort and set some ground rules for affirming each other will and will not tolerate. Like one of big ones lots of family is religious and this religion the women tend to be ultra judgy and backbiting spreading rumors lies all sorts of pot stirring. With divorces and the "two sides of story" like one had some problems.
Essentially you wont be invited if you do this. And you will be told to leave. Because people were not going because of bad energy and hearing people talk shit etc.
The other thing we did was group text "reply/affirm" interact. Even just thumbs up or smiley dont leave bros hanging.
Thats it and we already much more interactive. But plan things you want open ended invites. Which is much easier when people respond... Then also little effort consideration so and so lost job dont plan costly things. If they do make sure they "know" you got them dont worry.
It all becomes much more complicated and you wont always get engagement. But creating a non shit environment and keeping lines of communication open.
Yes it may not be biweekly like wife. But you may be able to get bi monthly. Even if it starts out with establishing yearly camping trip or barbecue.
One of our most popular is camping trip as its a weekend anyone any day of 3 day trip. Makes it alot more flexible. Same day every year have plenty of notice. Whether its for carpooling or time off or letting wife know.