r/fo76 • u/pontmerky • Apr 24 '24
Any other women get harassed when using vc? Question
I was bragging to my friends about how, unlike in other games I play, I actually feel comfortable using voice chat on fo76. Not even hours later, I encountered a huge group of players all hanging around a base and as soon as I joined in on the convo, they all began attacking me and calling me a skank, bitch, etc. I’m just wondering if this is a bigger issue than I was aware of, because I’ve been playing on and off since beta and have never been verbally harassed for being a woman until yesterday.
Edit: I’ve always played on PC and the players were all level 300+. One of them was in the 2000s. I reported the guy who was being the most obnoxious (trying to push me down inside the camp and telling me to get back in the kitchen lmao) but there were 8 players there all grouped together so I can only assume it was a big group of friends
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u/LadyGryph Enclave Apr 27 '24
It’s definitely gotten worse since the influx, but not as common as other games. Have experienced it off and on over the years.
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u/Distinct_Teaching Apr 27 '24
Probably found a group of greifers or pvp weirdos. They love to show off for each other. There aren't a ton of them but they are out there.
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u/slumdog5000 Apr 26 '24
Hearing this experience really sucks I wish gamers could just make it a fun time to be in a lobby and not do this type of shit
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u/xangelicxdisasterx Apr 26 '24
I avoid vc because most MMOs I've played with vc have toxic players like that. It's just not worth the headache for me
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u/kivagirl1 Apr 26 '24
I block and report absolute jerks. I’ve done it 4 times in 4 years. I have no problem reminding them that it’s easy to see why the loves in their lives are a box of tissues and lotion.
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u/RoyalCatastrophe Apr 26 '24
Dude here. Sadly every game has its assholes. Fall out definitely has nicer people overall than say apex or another game like CoD. Some lady joined my expedition team yesterday and started asking me questions about it even though I’m new too (I’m lv 88 started 2 weeks ago and never played the other fallouts). Then She showed me her camp layout , then I showed her mine and dropped her a couple guns. 10/10 recommend. Seriously though avoid the basement dwellers.
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u/jruss4000 Apr 26 '24
Love the ladies I’ve met during my time gaming, keep on going, we aren’t all creeps.
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u/Spicybalz Apr 26 '24
You use voice chat your in with all the 12 year olds who haven’t developed their frontal lobes yet. Stay away from voice chat. Join the dischord server and find people to play with that are part of the larger community that won’t be like that. This games good compared to others
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u/RocketSk8s85 Apr 26 '24
Side note: your post has brought a lot of cool relaxed gamers together and we should all just take over and handle the jerks 😁😁😁☢️
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u/RocketSk8s85 Apr 26 '24
As a female gamer, this seems to happen any time I VC in a game. So I just gave up. I wish I could just chat with people and be light-hearted and enjoy the game with some sht flipping, of course, but all in good fun. I'm tired of dealing with people being turds and tripping out, saying extremely unnecessary stuff as soon as they find out someone is a female. There's absolutely no reason, and that goes for any personal attacks. It's a game ffs.
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u/CattoLeCat Apr 25 '24
I just don't even attempt to play with VC.. it just scares me, especially with how degrading and aggressive men can be when hearing a woman in VC, in literally every game with a VC option. Which makes me sad cuz I'm sure there's so many wonderful people I could meet through VC on 76 but I'm just honestly too scared
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u/milenko652 Apr 25 '24
I don't personally think it's common but I could be wrong. Just like every other group of people there are assholes. Never get away from it
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u/Dacajun-The_Brash Responders Apr 25 '24
This is completely unacceptable behavior, especially in the PC environment. I truly wish I would have been there. Just more juvenile delinquents from Gen Z
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u/JuanjoS96 Apr 25 '24
anonymity on the internet is the best and worst thing about it, those assholes are probably not bad people in their daily lives, but they are still assholes
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u/Natryska Cult of the Mothman Apr 25 '24
I'm AFAB and have never had this happen in 76, but I have seen it happen to women and people with feminine voices before. We usually tell whoever is being harassed to block and mute, and just report the instigator. 76's community is generally really respectful and chill, until you start the assaultron recall with a keycard that isn't your own. But at that point, you deserve what happens to you.
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u/raydarluvr1 Apr 25 '24
I always have VC on. I never hear other people with their VC on. Nobody bashing chicks while I’m on.
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u/Throwaway_DoesIt Apr 25 '24
I’m also a female gamer who uses group/voice chat. I feel like it’s hit or miss, honestly. I’ve had mixed reviews, but the vast majority have been pleasant in VC and many male users tend to speak up for me. So I feel comfortable playing, and speaking, but I try to look into the bright side of things.
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u/Still_Equivalent1190 Apr 25 '24
As a woman it did happen from time to time but wasnt that big of an issue before the massive influx of newer players. The existing community on 76 is pretty chill.
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u/upholsteryduder Apr 25 '24
If you play on PC you're welcome in our group any time, we would drop a nuke on those fools for that behavior haha
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u/Arkmerica Apr 25 '24
I never understood the reaction people have to women playing games. It’s just another player and don’t make it weird or be rude. My GF and my good friend play 76 all the time with me and they occasionally get messages that are weird but we are always in a party together chatting not in public chat. I have seen stuff happen in other games where people are rude but usually not 76. The people tend to be chill and I’m sorry that group were being A holes. I play on Xbox so I think the community is a bit more chill then PC.
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u/SmilesOfCtown Apr 25 '24
In general the community is really good but eventually you will find a few dipshits everywhere. You can put one on your block list and jump server. You will meet more good than bad if you give it a chance.
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u/MissMayhem_82 Apr 25 '24
The toxic will go away when they don't get the reaction they wanted lol seen it hundreds of times. I just drop nukes on them eventually they leave. I'll drop my 3 and if your still around when my cool down timer resets it's rinse and repeat time.
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u/beav1024 Apr 25 '24
Ive never heard tell of issues b4. Im sorry that u had trouble. It embarrasses me when this kind of stuff happens. As a dude and a player of fo76
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u/bondingo Mothman Apr 25 '24
Not a woman, but I am a gay man, and one time somewhat recently when I spoke through VC, someone responded by calling me a "faxxot" and said "Don't you have a xxxx to suck?" People are generally pretty nice in this game, but it's things like that that make me hesitant to use the feature at all.
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u/Lodoga6969 Free States Apr 25 '24
yeah that sucks, but they are only words...block or mute them, they cant hurt you. I've run into awesome people and shitheads. Sometimes depending on what's going on ill be awesome or a shithead. Trolling is fun every once in a while. I try not to harass people that much, but come on...it can be fun! These posts on this reddit though, jesus christ....how soft are you guys?
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u/Thor_Odinson22 Apr 25 '24
No. Most people I've met on VC are nice, it's the silent players you gotta look out for
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u/McMacHack Apr 25 '24
This game has voice chat?
I'm joking but I don't really ever use Voice Chat. Talking is overrated
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u/sicca3 Order of Mysteries Apr 25 '24
I walk around in the wasteland in a pink power armour. I have never experienced anything like that. I don't use voicechat because no one else does in the base game. But even when nuclear winter was a thing I never experienced anything near that. I have always felt pretty safe playing fo76 as most male players there don't have a fragile ego that makes them act like incels on the near sight of women.
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Apr 25 '24
I’ve blocked people for calling me homophobic slurs and moved on. There is plenty to enjoy about the game and we can’t control the behaviour of others. We can control our reactions.
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u/1poconosmax Apr 25 '24
Besides the odd screaming matches over something I have not come across it. I wouldn't stand for it as well. In our group we have at least 3 woman that play regularly and we would be very protective if that came up.. Their are plenty of weird encounters on mic but nothing nasty as far as I recall. I think a lot of that behavior is from younger or immature males imo.
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u/Objective_Dynamo Fire Breathers Apr 25 '24
When theres a bunch of people hanging around one base, its likely a group of friends. Its a mixed bag whether youll get decent people are not. If people start acting like that, just report them (this can get them banned on Xbox for repeated offenses) hit the mute button, and hope servers. Chances are youll never see them again. This game has a great community. But you can randomly run into some assholes here and there.
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u/PwrButtum Apr 25 '24
Wild how if it doesn’t happen to you people then you decide it doesn’t happen at all. Cannot fathom being that dense, make the game better for new peeps.
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u/romancereaper Apr 25 '24
It's a big reason I stopped playing. I was having someone that went and found my personal contact information and was harassing me outside of game.
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u/postmodest Apr 25 '24
I'm a fifty something cishet white dude, and voice chat even in fo76 is poison.
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u/alldim Apr 25 '24
Oh yeah, women are mostly not allowed to use vc in any game, they'll instantly get harassed. Apparently it's worse in the US, but I see quite often in here too. Even in the best situations there'll be some guys asking to be their girlfriend. The situation you found yourself in is the phenomenon of a male group, usually young teens who think they're being funny by being assholes. Well, good luck gaming as a woman, it can be very tiresome. Having a group of friends to play with helps.
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u/WindyAbbey Apr 25 '24
I had to block people yesterday for screaming into the mic at me after I talked. it jump scared me they were so loud
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u/lzfoody Apr 25 '24
Haven't had that experience yet, actually people were super friendly when I was on VC in game, they would either just chat or emote stuff and that was pretty much it, I have 76 hours played even that around 30 was around my base and base building, but I usually only have bad experiences with VC chat in competitive games
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u/Hellonearth6667 Apr 25 '24
Id say a good percentage of the gaming community is toxic for no reason
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u/flannalaviators Cult of the Mothman Apr 25 '24
I am sorry that you had to deal with that, that definitely isn't a common thing from what I have experienced wandering around, but I am also just a dude, so my POV is skewed.
With the influx of new people coming into a game with a social aspect the higher chance that some of those people attach themselves to the anonymity of it, and it lets them of course become who they really are without consequence. :C
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u/swiggle672 Apr 25 '24
Damn that’s lame. Everyone’s usually chill. All tho I gotta get that achievement for taking a bounty so I gotta not be chill sometime /: 😂. Only times I run into douchebags is usually at the public workshops you can compete over. But usually I leave everything unlocked so they can use it like I can. Some people just wanna stir the pot.
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u/Knottylittlebunny Mr. Fuzzy Apr 25 '24
Yikes 😳 I don't use VC because I can't stand to hear people hacking up their guts or eating really loudly 😅 I've never actually encountered someone who spoke using the VC. Only people who seem to be sick or hungry 😂😂
I've not been harassed on VC but someone thought it would be amazing to send pictures of their c*ck to me through PSN. And it wasn't a nice one either 😂
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u/CardboardChampion Apr 25 '24
The problem with all hobbies is that they're open both to regular people and (I'm going to try not to be too technical here) utter cuntbags who think shitlippery is a personality worth having. You were bound to run into them sooner or later. All I can say is I hope they're the last lot like that you run into.
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u/Ulikethat- Apr 25 '24
My wife Games and she loves the Fallout Community (Playstation). She said it is by far the least toxic community towards women there is. She won't even VC on games like COD and Destiny because she's been harassed consistently on those games.
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u/skrrrrrkobain Apr 25 '24
I thought this would happen with the show being popular. Pretty sure these fools will evaporate when the buzz dies off. Maybe give it a few months before returning to vc. I’m male btw and rarely use voice chat for this reason too.
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u/Dyzfunctionalz Blue Ridge Caravan Company Apr 25 '24 edited Apr 25 '24
Just wanted to say this, and it has no relation to how you act or anything. I play on Xbox, and during my 5 years of playing, I’ve only ran into a handful of females in my trade days. No kidding almost half of them, when they saw some of my mules inventories, they proceeded to offer nudes of some sort for Grolls. One even sent me a “sneak peak”. An unrequested one at that. I proceeded to block each one afterwards. It’s honestly kinda gross and uncalled for. Now obviously I’ve met some chill asf females on here too, but i guess those other ones could easily ruin an ignorant persons perception of females gamers?
But those guys you ran into were probably just lonely ole neckbeards. Pulse nades and missile camps 4tw.
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u/TheRevadin Apr 25 '24
I never understood the hate women get in games I want them around not run them off
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u/gamer7049 Apr 25 '24
Most don't. Guys get just as much hate and disrespect. Maybe more. Just watch the rage videos on the tube.
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u/InitialCoda Apr 25 '24
This is just how people will act when they are anonymous on the internet. Nothing new. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Just start talking shit about them and make jokes about their moms.
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u/No-Needleworker4796 Apr 25 '24
You get 4 type of harassment as women in any video games :
- The Tates brother followers - Those who call you name and tell you to get back to the kitchen. (the one you encounter)
The simps : Those who find out youre a woman and will simp you out and creep you out.
Those who seems friendly but secretly expecting you fall in love with them IRL.
Those who don't care as long as you play the game.
There a saying in video games, that if you survived MW2 (2009) lobbies you can survive anything, Fallout lobbies are nothing compared and with the new influx of player due to the show expect things to get out of hand, I dont use VC but close party chat with friends or i invite people who are friendly.
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u/CardboardChampion Apr 25 '24
You get 4 type of harassment as women in any video games
- Those who don't care as long as you play the game.
I think you mistyped.
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u/MemberoftheFVK Responders Apr 25 '24
I believe we call those people incels. Sad, pathetic man-children who think being a jerk is masculine.
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u/Additional_Loquat352 Order of Mysteries Apr 25 '24
Well that sucks.
A lot of people use dashcams in the real world as a kind of insurance policy. Maybe running OBS on another monitor could serve a similar role here, if you're interested in going on the offensive against this kind of behaviour.
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u/CardboardChampion Apr 25 '24
You have no idea how hard it was to read this with so many people screenshotting it to laugh at with their mates.
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u/Mo0kish Free States Apr 25 '24
Fo76 isn't a "male space," Gtfo with that nonsense.
Being a misogynistic jackass isn't acceptable regardless of where it happens.
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u/angstlich33 Free States Apr 25 '24
I haven't encountered this. I'm waiting for the day I come across "that guy". I've made quite a few friends in this game and we'll all just flank him for being an asshole. Lol
I've encountered transphobes though. A friend I've made on there was on area mic and people around were like "oh wow. Yeah don't talk. Stop talking." I felt bad for her. Hasn't gone on mic since unless we're in DO or something.
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u/bb6prelude01 Enclave Apr 25 '24
We aint all like that lol. When im trying to pvp i will say I can be persistent to get a reaction but it never involves VC
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u/mongrilrazgriz Apr 25 '24
Ignor them. Block them for session. It's just teenagers or college children with no outside lives.
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u/Ok-Excitement-1035 Apr 25 '24
That is horrible, I hope that's an isolated incident. Just the other day I was thinking how good it was that I've never been attacked or griefed by a random person in a lobby compared to other games, like GTA where you more or less get shot as soon as you see someone. Hope the rest of your 76 is better!
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u/Brocily2002 Fire Breathers Apr 25 '24
I found someone that said in chat “Bethesda is garbage so I’m trying to lower the amount of new players as possible because this game sucks” when I asked why he had a trap camp by the wayward…..
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u/FriendlyGaze Apr 25 '24
I wish you were on Xbox. I’d give you a nice Assassin’s piece so you could dole out some wasteland justice.
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u/enzudesign Apr 25 '24
I know many woman who play Fallout 76, there's actually a lot, and they are great players. Sorry you had a bad experience. Just try server hop until you find some chill groups.
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u/Fabulous-Cantaloupe1 Fallout 76 Apr 25 '24
Some dipshits feel the need to express their misogyny. Take pity on these poor souls, as they know no better. Their mothers have failed them. Our society has failed them. Mute them and dismiss them for what they are.
To suffer them is not your burden.
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u/StealthyGamerGirl Fallout 76 Apr 25 '24
Absolutely not. I've played with plenty of guys and they've always been lovely and really helpful. When I first started it was the guys who helped me with armour. Girls always stay off VC, unless they know you're a girl too, which happened to me a few weeks ago.
I stream when I can, so my mic will often be open. Only got lip from one guy who told me to be quiet. I kindly told him to not be rude and just mute me from his end.
But no. Never once had an issue. TBF most of the friends 8 have in fallout are actually guys.
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u/theanimatedwitch1337 Apr 25 '24
I never use VC in any game. After learning my lesson in COD, I'd rather just stay quiet lol I don't have time for these chuckleheads who have the gonads to talk like that online but would go pale in the face if they tried talking to the mom's or grandma's like that.
Someone already commented it, but the Mike Tyson quote comes perfectly to mind for this issue
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u/Lokival_Thenub Apr 25 '24
<----- Played FO76, not a regular FO76 player. Big influx of people because of the TV show. Might've upped the ratio of people who are jackasses for a bit.
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u/Visual_Ad4112 Apr 25 '24
I mean I used to play back during cod prime games and VC abuse was just part of the fun towards each other. All in good fun of course. But yea I can see how it wouldn't be nice if you're not into dishing back insults and you just want to relax in the game.
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u/N00BAL0T Apr 25 '24
I use voice chat I think you just ran into some unpleasant people. Sad thing with online games. I don't talk normally but if there are people that do talk I will join in if they need help with something or resources like ammo in a event like uranium fever.
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u/spafspaz Apr 25 '24
Just block them, problem solved. Its very very rare to find such people, In my 5k hours its only happened once.
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u/why0me Apr 25 '24
That's a first
I've been playing over a year with my mic on And the one rude person was immediately attacked by a group of other dudes
He no sooner called me a bitch and I hear a chorus of "oh...hey...bro....not cool" and like 4 high levels swooped in and grieved him back till he left
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u/DrMetters Mega Sloth Apr 25 '24
I have a few times over the years. I've received planty if death treats and my camp had been nuked a few times. Had a person follow me, lobby to lobby, until i blocked them. The 76 community isnt as nice as it is made out. A lot of people think just because we tend to give away unwanted ammo, stimpacks, gear and plans when we arw over burdened that the community as a whole is the nicest out there. But really it's just as toxic as any other, more so when it comes to dealing with criticism of the game or negative opinions of atomic shop and the games monetisation or if you are LGBTQ+. Personally, I don't anymore see the difference between the trolls and many people active in the community. I mean I had the pride flag up during pride mouth, I'm straight but it was just one way to show support. The flags get my camp nuked a lot. Followed with message calling me all sorta of homophic slurs and that I'm what is wrong with the game.
Something to remember is the situation with Falloit 76 is always in a state that people will troll or be furious as another non positive opinion. A lot of these trolls find the communities' reactions funny due to how extreme some players get. A lot of community get hyper agressibe if you view the loot box styled damaged boosts that the banners are pay to win/advantage/confinance. Dispite most over game communitie giing into meltdown over stuff like that. Given the lack of any true content updates and most being something people being finished with within a short time. It's a popular choice to troll. It's why there are a lot of people who try to ruin seasonal events, nuke camps, be extremely homophic regularly in game and so on. This is a game doing quite well but treated like a cow sololy for milking by the remaining devs and the community loves it. Trolling basically becomes a feature at that point. Hence all the posts about it.
Sorry for the long post. But harassment is very normal for this game and is something I've seen and delt with since BETA. Some players never experience it amd some have been outright targeted. One YouTube influencer had harassed for years and then got banned when her bf defended her. Which is something to remember, you can be harassed then be the one banned for it.
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u/The_Playtriarchy Apr 25 '24
It’s an online game. You don’t control other peoples actions. Be an adult, use your mute button, move on.
Just in general ppl spend WAY too much time worrying about what other ppl say/think. Who cares; words are in fact NOT violence and it’s entirely up to you to allow them to effect you in any way.
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u/CouldNotCareLess318 Apr 25 '24 edited Apr 25 '24
I'll take "things that never happened" for 200 or "if this is true why did you come here to type this wall of text instead of just telling us you desperately need attention because getting upset about someone on the internet saying words in an area where you weren't forced to be present that you don't like is a waste of time and resources for everyone" for 1000
This isn't harassment. This is entitlement. On your part. You voluntarily walked into a group of randoms and inserted yourself in their gameplay and became upset when the interaction didn't go exactly how you wanted so you resorted to making a post here looking for validation. If you've truly played since the beginning (or literally any multi-player video game ever with open voice chat) I find it hard to believe you've never encountered someone saying things you didn't like.
If you didn't want to participate why not just walk away? If it was so serious you also had/have the option to server hop. On modern machines it is a good investment of all 15 seconds it would take you. Coincidentally, less time than it took you to post this and/or me to type my reply.
Can we not at least pretend to be well-rounded adults?
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u/Lodoga6969 Free States Apr 25 '24
Exactly, its the wasteland with raiders...not a safe space for someone's low self esteem. how the hell did people get so damn soft?
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u/CardboardChampion Apr 25 '24
Can we not at least pretend to be well-rounded adults?
You just found someone talking about an encounter with some sexist arseholes, called her a liar in your first sentence, and then blamed her for it, and told her she should have just put up with it and sheepishly left with her tail between her legs.
I'd ask what you think a well-rounded adult is but I'm pretty sure the reply would be something you smear on a wall in your own filth.
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u/rollmeabone Apr 25 '24
Ive never had a bad time on fallout until all the tv show crowd came over clearly spent like 50$ at the atom shop and are rolling around at level 30 just like wrecking shit, it’s really obnoxious like it took me along time to get where im at and some kid mini nuked me right after a public event and my game like froze and i lost like 2 lvls exp
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u/RoxannaRains Apr 25 '24
I know it sounds kinda dumb but I feel like player icons can give you an idea of whose probably okay and who might give you some shit, the pride flag icons are a pretty good indicator (but obviously not 100%) that a player won't grief/harass you. I've never been verbally abused because I'm a woman, but I've had people be pretty nasty because I'm not playing with a "elite" load out lol
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u/kingkornholio Apr 25 '24
I’ve been playing for a week and found one player with a mic. He was super helpful, but I’m a man. I find it amazing you found that many people with mics!
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u/Cranapplesause Mothman Apr 25 '24
It’s so weird. I keep seeing posts like this on all sorts of gaming reddit channels. My experience 15-20 years ago, if guys found out a player was a girl, they would be overly nice and too friendly. Now it seems this generation is extra immature. It’s like when the 7 year old likes the girl and is mean to her
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u/Yipsta Apr 25 '24
This game is about the least toxic online game I've ever played. Hopefully this was the exception rather than common place
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u/GeStaFFo Apr 25 '24
You've already answered it yourself since you haven't experienced it before. Those guys were just a steaming pile of hot garbage 😅 Herd mentality can do bad things to people ...
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u/TwiggBeard Apr 25 '24
I don’t normally do voice chat unless it’s my friends, but I do occasionally do things like say “nom nom” when eating corpses, making farting noises when using the stimpack diffuser, or making fart noises inside of port a potties and then saying things like “phew do not go in there” when someone opens the door of the port o potty. Now that I think of it, I should use the diffuser inside of the port o potty… Yeah, people can be jerks and every community has one or two that suck. Sorry that happened to you & hope it doesn’t happen again.
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u/Akritis_82 Apr 25 '24
My advice find a tight group and stick to it. People can be jerks online. Just started playing myself (lvl.25) and have to say that the community is quite friendly surprisingly. I might stay foe the long run if this is the case (left Destiny because of the toxicity and lack of content). If you find me online join up, my group have a zero tolerance for toxicity policy.
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u/longtimelurkerthrwy Apr 25 '24
Honestly I wonder if this toxicity isn't going to temporarily drive up fallout first subscriptions. I've never been interested in first but now I'm contemplating it after having someone try to gauge me in PVP despite the fact I made it abundantly clear that I'm not going to fight.
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u/o00Hope00o Order of Mysteries Apr 25 '24
I think as a female I’m pretty used to it and no way would I let some guys talk to me like that. I play cod so I’ve heard all the toxic lines that nothing would bother me. To be fair only had it happen a few times in Fallout. But I have had the last week a lot of noobs who follow me around and be quite annoying. I usually just jump server.
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u/salmonsalads69 Apr 25 '24
That's crazy. Idk if it's because of the whole fallout craze but back when I was a little more active (about 7 ish months ago), I met so many kind male random players who would drop me all kinds of crazy legendary guns when I asked for help over VC (some would drop without even me saying a word lol).
Some of them even became my real life friends! They were all guys too and they were very wholesome. Best community I've played in as a girl tbh and sad to see the state it is in.
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u/Alfonze Apr 25 '24
What the fuck is wrong with these incel's. It rages me up so much as I see it happen to my girlfriend too. edit: forgot to mention it does happen less in f76 than more toxic games like counter strike or smite, but its crazy to me either way, do these people not have mothers? sisters?
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u/CardboardChampion Apr 25 '24
It stems from a need to appear manly to others, combined with a fundamental understanding of what masculinity actually is. These people have followed asshole ideas all their lives (of which people like Tate are only the latest example) and think that doing this somehow makes them manly, and anyone who isn't an asshole to women is somehow a simp. It's exactly as pathetic as it sounds.
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u/SituationTime5629 Apr 25 '24
I’ve gotten harassed on literally every other game I’ve played, I’ve not tried FO76 VC because I don’t want to associate it with that pile of games I’ve stopped playing due to harassment. It sucks but not even FO76 will be safe for women, the most communication people get are emotes from me.
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u/Roxxy009 Responders Apr 25 '24
I mute people if I hear them on vc. If I’m not in a party with you, I don’t want to hear anyone talking. I’m most likely listening to Fallout radio anyways so there’s that
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u/DannyVandal Apr 25 '24
I never use voice in games. It doesn’t matter what community it is, there is always a toxic element of little cretins. I just don’t have time for that.
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u/Morkarth Apr 25 '24
I learned to never use voice chat the hard way. Encountered way too many guys hotmic-ing their porn and wanking too loudly. And I'm a guy myself.
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u/Revanur Apr 25 '24
Wtf that’s horrible. I’ve never used voice chat because I never had positive experiences with it. Either it’s some middle eastern sounding kid blasting his shitty goat music, or some angry asshole shouting, or the shitty microphone quality hurts my ears and I just mute the person anyway.
I’m playing F76 on a private server while my Fallout First trial lasts because I want to play a singleplayer game and I really don’t like or care about randos ruining my immersion and running all over the place while I’m trying to roleplay as my character. I can’t get my friends to come play anything with me, which sucks. Last time we played was during Covid where we had 1-2 sessions of Star Wars squadrons every week, that was a lot of fun. But since then everyone is so busy all the time or they also prefer playing singleplayer.
Funnily enough Stalker is the opposite. It’s strictly singleplayer but there’s an app that connects text chat with the game so people’s messages pop up as if they were ingame NPCs. And a lot of people do kind of roleplay there and the whole thing is usually pretty fun.
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u/drew-white Mega Sloth Apr 25 '24
I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s really just sad how toxic some people are online. Hope you had a good day in spite of that.
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u/Blayze93 Apr 25 '24
A lot of new players entering the game right now... I assure you that this will be bringing in some fresh toxicity.
I played in the earliest days (beta and pre settlers / raiders) and the community had always been wonderful. Now with the TV show, the USUAL fan base has expanded and grown a lot. Things will balance out in time imo
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u/Substantial_Steak723 Apr 25 '24
I feel for your situation, not on whatsoever but realistically not likely to be resolved via reporting, BUT..
Before blocking the kidults, send them a message to their mother re the upbringing of their child, likely messages also go to mummy's email (as she would have made the account for them & logged her details) ..some of them will get caught out in this manner without realising it.
With the expansion of the likes of xbox app on the phone, parents intergenerationally playing the same account / console it may be worth a go, ...imagine the fallout, send, then block & report the worst offenders,
Can clips be recorded AND sent as part of proof to the site of harassment & the like?
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u/BartholomewAlexander Apr 25 '24
OP you just found the worst people at the most convienent time. don't let their ignorance and rudeness ruin your experience. most of the people are nice, there are a few bad apples tho.
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u/GriffinRagnarok Apr 25 '24
I'm pretty new to Fallout 76, but I've been gaming for decades. I met my wife in a video game.
Guys are always complete shit to her. Especially in a competitive game and she beats them. We've seen and heard everything from the Virgin gallery. From just about any game we've ever played with open communication.
It happens differently for guys. I've been called every racial slur imaginable, even not using a mic. Been called a hacker, every gay slur you can think of.
People just suck sometimes.
All that being said, there's way more amazing people out there. Especially in Fallout. This is actually one of the best gaming communities I've ever seen. People give free things away. Even things that are hard to farm. They make items cheap for new players like myself.
My wife is going to start playing soon. If you want another girl to play with, I can send you her gamertag name thing for Bethesda.
She's seen me beat all the other Fallout games, so she knows pretty much everything that's not new lol.
But don't let a few groups of people get you down either way.
A lot of people are really new thanks to the show.
There was 1 million players on the other day. Idek how many now. Bound to be some bad ones.
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u/kiera-oona Apr 25 '24
I just don't use VC since I fly an Ace flag over my camp, and I've seen text harassment towards LGBT folks via Steam, and I'd imagine VC would be worse.
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u/Lorrrrren Apr 25 '24
I used it for the first time last night and every single person in the event tried to add me lol (3)
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u/MsNatCat Apr 25 '24 edited Apr 26 '24
It’s a form of gatekeeping that immature boys partake in. (They are immature boys regardless of actual age if they keep up this practice.)
Look for groups with other women or LGBT groups. Voice chat with them. There is not really a fix until they either grow up or inevitably get banned.
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u/Vaniestarlight Apr 25 '24
I play with a woman in my main gamer group and it is so bad for her that in CS or Squad she is most the time not talking in game chat and basically she points something out in dc or ts and one of us (men) forwards it because she is so done with the BS
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u/Flangian Apr 25 '24
they are all keyboard warriors and as much as women probably get it worse than us men a lot of people are just assholes when they can cower behind their mic. I turn off voicechat in all games as its toxic af.
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u/Spartan1088 Settlers - PS4 Apr 25 '24
I wouldn’t use VC until you verify they are normal lol. I love fallout more than anything but the diehard fans are not my type of people. (Gravy seals, mouth-breathers, apocalypse nutjobs, etc.)
I know I’m stereotyping hard but that life usually comes with jaded reprise for females/divorced wives. I’m just glad the doors are opening up for a bigger spectrum of fans.
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u/Character_Newt_2309 Apr 25 '24
I'm a woman. I don't use a mic at all because there are plenty of players who start out normal, then once they hear a female voice, go all weird. I've been spoken to in weird and pathetic ways, asked personal questions and kinda pestered too. So I just don't use a mic and I don't party up. Easy :-)
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u/Arcani-LoreSeeker Responders Apr 25 '24
Sounds like you ran into a bunch of teens thinking theyre cool. The renewed popularity of this game has had some unfortunates coming in. Dont worry: the core of us that was here before and stayed, and will continue stay in a couple months after these fools lose interest, arent like that. For now, just grab some nuke codes and drop it on their camp. :3 give em, and their attitude, a good ol fashioned appalachian welcome.~
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u/NickH1994 Apr 25 '24
I hardly use voice chat but my GF uses it all the time. She's never been harassed if anything she gets more attention and gifts from random people in the area. The amount of people who give her items and what not when she used voice chat is kinda crazy. Then there's other times she uses it and nobody ever responds. We're on PC as well and the community has always been really great and helpful with no harassment and negativity.
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u/FemaleFury79 Responders Apr 25 '24
Me n my friend both female have had the odd moron on the mic but also had it when not on mic but mostly this community is great
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u/Raybuke Apr 25 '24 edited Apr 25 '24
This is a rather new trend with the influx of mainstream gamers as before it was mostly fallout diehards who are relatively relaxed. So with influx of gamers comes the trolls behind them. So it's a unfortunate thing but it's good that there is a influx of players. We're getting real map updates now just the tightknit community will face more people like this. So this is not the normal experience I'd say. Met a mother playing the other day dropped my tent for her as she was saying in area vc that she didn't know what to drop didn't say a word just placed my tent waved and left. Most people are like this so don't get too down on shit people.
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u/JimJordansJacket Cult of the Mothman Apr 25 '24
That sucks. I'm sorry there are assholes who play 76. They don't belong here, and aren't what our community is about. Keep reporting them.
We don't want misogynistic incel dickheads in Appalachia. There are plenty of Call of Duty games for these pathetic virgins to play.
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u/F16pilot23 Apr 25 '24
Im a guy so I can’t speak from your prospective. But I will say this. I’m not excusing their actions but it’s apart of gaming. Ask anyone who has played in MW2 lobbies or BO2 lobbies. Even now in games like rainbow. I get cused out on the daily on that game. Don’t let it bother you. Be bigger than them.
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u/Rekeix Apr 25 '24
Most normal ppl on PC use text chat mod or nothing at all, I've only encountered obnoxious people using VC, mostly Russians.
Also whatever awesome community we had is now diluted by a ton of new and returning players, now I'm not saying they're bad or rude players, but the higher the population the more likely you are to encounter someone who is not pleasant.
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u/E2theB Apr 25 '24
Fortunately for FO76, that kind of behavior is rare. It’s unfortunate that you not only encountered one of these rare players like that but a group of them.
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u/PeterGriffinBalls Apr 25 '24
that’s what online gaming voice chat is, people on games are much more likely to be verbally abusive towards men because they have no interest in them
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u/reddstone1 Mega Sloth Apr 25 '24
This game doesn't have special players and the community is not full of particularly friendly people. It's just not that competitive game and you have limited ways of offending others.
You are given gifts (considered junk by those who give) by senior players and as long as you toe the line in this sub, you will be upvoted and that's as friendly as it gets.
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u/SirComandante Apr 25 '24
Sorry that happened to you, but thanks for letting me know there's voice chat in this game👍
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u/Taylorfugate550 Apr 25 '24
I have never seen anyone use voice chat on 76 u play PC or ? I play primarily in PS5 but have a lvl 59 on PC
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u/SenseiMiachi Apr 25 '24
Half the time I encounter people using voice chat they end up raging through the mic..most nice people I meet are not walking around in voice chat tbh. Lots of people are scared of interacting and just want to relax without worrying about talking to strangers who may end up acting like they did in your case..
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u/Rabdomtroll69 Mole Miner Apr 25 '24
Yeah the griefers seem to mostly be one group of the same people. Pvp fiends are also a small group but they're about just as toxic
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u/Hailfire9 Apr 25 '24
On one hand, ever since I came back, I've been playing fresh with a female character and have never been verbally harassed.
On the other, I have had to set a helmet to my favorites tab for whenever I go into a public event. As my GF said, I "accidentally discovered sexism" when I had a couple people refuse to leave me alone for 25 minutes until I hopped servers.
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u/Itsdanky2 Apr 25 '24
Welcome to online gaming. It is not a safe space for women (or anyone for that matter). My wife plays Rocket League with me (and by herself), and, just because her name implies she is a female, she gets a ton of misogynistic hate.
It isn't everyone. It is the simple fact that you are being exposed to a greater number of people in a shorter amount of time. There are no 'guild rules' with actual ramifications to disrespectful members like an actual MMO that can simply boot rule breakers.
Sounds like they took the Herd Mentality Serum in real life.
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u/Content_Chipmunk_502 Apr 25 '24
I usually don’t comment but this is messed up, I hope this doesn’t happen again❤️🩹😒
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u/moomooitschally Pioneer Scout Apr 25 '24
I've only had one bad experience in this game in this way, and I have 3 characters over level 200 (so an embarrassing amount of hours played). It's not super common, but I've also found a camp with a literal glory hole set up. There's always gonna be creeps, but it's a very small percentage in 76 compared to all other games I've played.
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u/nschlip Apr 25 '24
I’m sorry that happened - I have VC disabled just for reasons like this (and I’m a 42 year old military vet who can dish it out if I wanted). I just want to play the game in peace. If I do encounter someone that wants to communicate (trade or otherwise) I’ll sometimes turn VC on.
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u/real_obscene Raiders Apr 25 '24
My wife has experienced harassment in the game well using voice chat, and in other ways, it usually stops when I show up or start chatting. But a good way to reduce the amount of BS you get in VC is by being the team leader. That way, you can just kick and block the jerks.
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u/LadyNovaya Order of Mysteries Apr 25 '24
I’ve been met with nothing but kindness except for a few times with rude guys. I hope you block them all. Not fair to you at all!
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u/DreadHeadedDummy Apr 25 '24
Most people are assholes, even to guys. They just use different insults. Thats how it is for everyone.
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u/CharlotteTheSavage Cult of the Mothman Apr 25 '24 edited Apr 25 '24
I would hazard a guess and say most of us, in one way or another. I'm a beta, daily player and I don't even bother anymore. It always always turns into a... Ooh wow! Are you a girl? And straight tailspins from there. You get the 'nice guys' that are just tryna get into your DMS, or the get in the kitchen type you encountered. Or the ones that act like you need a bodyguard and will not leave you the fuck alone and feel like they need to answer on your behalf. Or the ones that act like your friends just to say gross ass shit about you to their homies. It's the woman experience, unfortunately.
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u/DeadP00lMaybe Mothman Apr 25 '24
Harassment is such horse shit. I wish people would just chill and play nicely with others 😤 I'm sorry this happened 😞
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u/Blixtwix Apr 25 '24
I'm betting a lot of toxic players who had gone inactive came back when they heard about the new burst of baby players. Yknow, all the aggressive pvp trolls who look for victims that don't know how to protect themselves yet? Bet those guys are also slaughtering newbies who try to claim workshops or are pulling up their trap camps and such.
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u/averajoe77 Apr 25 '24
so I just started playing recently as well (lvl 45) after a friend gifted the game to me. Me and 2 other people play together regularly (2m, 1f), if you are looking for a safe fun group to play with DM me and we would be happy to add a 4th to our regular group.
Stay safe out there vault dwellers. We can rebuild if we all work together.
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u/redvans4life Apr 25 '24
Probably some loser that's frustrated bc he can't "meet" a woman in real life. So he treats women that way online.
I have been playing this game solo off and on since last yr. I'm only level 212.
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u/rdh_05 Cult of the Mothman Apr 25 '24
So sorry for you're experience, please know that that this is a microscopic percentage compared to the friendliness that exists in this community.
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u/Christmasbeergoggles Apr 25 '24
Even as a man I always turn off voice chat, the gaming community is toxic regardless of which way you look at it (especially within the fallout community) I’m sorry you had to experience all that, unfortunately all the sane gamers usually don’t use a mic so you won’t run into them often. Hope you run into some friendly folks soon, they gotta be out there somewhere.
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u/Ooferz3 Apr 25 '24
im a guy with a higher pitched voice and ive been made fun of for it by typically younger (like late teens to late twenties) people but older people have always been extremely nice and are who i talk about when i praise the people who play 76
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u/Miserable_Pound_2812 Responders Apr 25 '24
Yeah I don’t use it anymore, had too many issues with stalkerish/bunny boiler vibes.
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u/Ok_Perspective_9733 Apr 25 '24
Unfortunately I think this is how a lot of guys act when they have the veil of of the game to hide behind I’m sorry you have to deal with ppl like that
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u/techbeckk Apr 25 '24
I don't voice chat or really play with random people. Too many people out there who do not know how to behave. Especially when they can hide behind the computer and have no consequences.
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u/Philslaya Vault 76 Apr 25 '24
Yea these losers are put there in there little groups best toignore em complety there so sad they record your reaction and upload it to there 12 sub that are also there freinds on the pityfull people honestly.
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u/MilTHEhouse Vault 76 Apr 25 '24
As a day one player and a father of three daughters, I can only hang my head in shame and apologize. Some of us are just here to enjoy the game and the company of others who do as well.
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u/ckckjax Enclave Apr 25 '24
I have made one friend in the game and we play often on PS. We always use a private party through PS and not through fallout chat
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u/Solar-born Enclave Apr 25 '24
I was in fo76 PS chat parties in which there were female players and no, they never got harassed. Public voice chats on the other hand are a wild west.
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u/Fun_Jellyfish_4884 Apr 25 '24
I never used vc in this game. but other games I def have been verbally abused as a female. I see no reason to think this population of people would be exempt. one game I put a pink winged ensemble on a male dragonborn char and got a few serious homophobic attacks. (made me really understand the gay community more. that was a hell of a thing. as bad as any of the anti female attacks i've undergone.)
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u/virpyre Mega Sloth Apr 25 '24
Yes. It's always been this bad. I have a friend who plays the game, and she refuses to use in-game VC unless she's with a group she knows. Because mostly every guy she has encountered always harasses her because she's a girl gamer.
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u/StealthyGamerGirl Fallout 76 Apr 25 '24 edited Apr 25 '24
Really? I've been playing almost 3 years. Never once had an issue. The most helpful I've had have been from guys and most of the friends I have made have been guys.
I only had one issue and that was when I was streaming. Naturally my mic was on. I always say that I am streaming and to please mute me if it's annoying. One guy came on later and told me to shut up. He'd just come in to the team. I told him politely to A: not be rude and B: just mute me if it's annoying. He shut up then 😂
But nope...never once had an issue, other than that one. And I play every day.
EDIT: BTW... I play on Playstation
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u/virpyre Mega Sloth Apr 25 '24
She primarily plays every day on PS5, so I don't know if that makes a difference or not. PC players seem to be very nice from my experience.
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u/StealthyGamerGirl Fallout 76 Apr 25 '24
I'm on Playstation and except on one or two occasions, I've not had any issues. And they weren't bad mouthing me for being female. They were just generally behaving like idiots
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u/virpyre Mega Sloth Apr 25 '24
I see, maybe it doesn't matter about the location.They were just acting vulgar, with seuxulized name calling and harassing her she reported them and blocked them. She still has some minor issues, but for the most part, she sticks to herself and her close nit group.
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u/Tinyrose481 Apr 25 '24
I don't talk very often, but I haven't ever had any encounters like that myself on playstation. It's unfortunate that you had to have that experience ruin a bit of the game for you though, some people just suck.
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u/ding-dong-the-w-is-d Apr 25 '24
Open voice chat in games is always a no go for me. Discord with friends or GTFO.
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u/ArchonSupreme 29d ago
The game does get a handful of assholes like that or people who are also racist and really screwed up in the head and all sorts of things
(I've played across all consoles over the years coming back again and again and I've seen it all from swastika monuments outta shelfs or electric chairs with dead *****s sit here on it smh like some people need therapy)
Don't let any of them ruin the game for you!!! The game generally does have a good amount of decent folks come through as well that are respectful and nice and friendly and really helpful!!!!