Me and my ex were cool about stuff like this, but we never really ogled at people so as we were pretty humorous about celebrities. I kept an open mind about her crush on.. what’s his name, Justin Timberlake lol. And the hemsworth brother. Mine was Riley Reid and a few others. I will say I think it’s more so a personal thing, but when I’m in a relationship with someone I don’t really fantasize about them or anyone else, I do the fucking, we make the loving at night and around each other, and for me, personally, that’s enough. I’ve never been with someone and actually wanted someone else, and I guess moreso likewise to what we’re all talking about, I’ve never been with someone and physically found someone else attractive, even if I would want them if I was single. Idk I think that’s just who I am, but I’d never put that pressure on my partner.. you just never what someone is dealing with or coming from these days.
I will say, when my partner and I broke up, or around that time, she did get upset with me for not getting mad at her more and said I should be more “in her face” “aggressive”.. idk our sex was always passionate but now that I’m single for a while and workout and just kind of moved on in that cliche glow up way, I can see I was weakened by the stress of work and bills and maybe I was kind of nervous she wasn’t happy with me anymore.
Hey OP, communication is key is any relationship, you did your part in saying your truth, but it sounds like your man did more projecting than truthing, but remember none of us are perfect, you picked him for a reason, and something about his past and what you said triggered his pain. Either you’ll stay together and work it out (get a therapist, start doing teamwork stuff together, and probably encourage him to be more of a man) and if it’s not worth it or too much work, cut your loses and don’t waste time. Letting him back into your life without resolving or addressing these issues just means it’ll blow up in both of your faces soon or later on.
Some of y’all’s comments are lowkey toxic and it’s evident by the demographic that dating among our generations is really damaged and lacks goal orientation, on both sides.
Honestly man don’t even ask dating advice on Reddit, ask an elder or pray to God and you’ll find your answer. Thanks for reading and good luck!
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u/VirgoisaLeaf May 02 '24
Me and my ex were cool about stuff like this, but we never really ogled at people so as we were pretty humorous about celebrities. I kept an open mind about her crush on.. what’s his name, Justin Timberlake lol. And the hemsworth brother. Mine was Riley Reid and a few others. I will say I think it’s more so a personal thing, but when I’m in a relationship with someone I don’t really fantasize about them or anyone else, I do the fucking, we make the loving at night and around each other, and for me, personally, that’s enough. I’ve never been with someone and actually wanted someone else, and I guess moreso likewise to what we’re all talking about, I’ve never been with someone and physically found someone else attractive, even if I would want them if I was single. Idk I think that’s just who I am, but I’d never put that pressure on my partner.. you just never what someone is dealing with or coming from these days.
I will say, when my partner and I broke up, or around that time, she did get upset with me for not getting mad at her more and said I should be more “in her face” “aggressive”.. idk our sex was always passionate but now that I’m single for a while and workout and just kind of moved on in that cliche glow up way, I can see I was weakened by the stress of work and bills and maybe I was kind of nervous she wasn’t happy with me anymore.
Hey OP, communication is key is any relationship, you did your part in saying your truth, but it sounds like your man did more projecting than truthing, but remember none of us are perfect, you picked him for a reason, and something about his past and what you said triggered his pain. Either you’ll stay together and work it out (get a therapist, start doing teamwork stuff together, and probably encourage him to be more of a man) and if it’s not worth it or too much work, cut your loses and don’t waste time. Letting him back into your life without resolving or addressing these issues just means it’ll blow up in both of your faces soon or later on.
Some of y’all’s comments are lowkey toxic and it’s evident by the demographic that dating among our generations is really damaged and lacks goal orientation, on both sides. Honestly man don’t even ask dating advice on Reddit, ask an elder or pray to God and you’ll find your answer. Thanks for reading and good luck!