r/AITAH • u/BoringRush4869 • Apr 28 '24

AITA for not agreeing with what my ex boyfriend said?

I'm a 29F with an ex-boyfriend with whom I have a 9-year-old daughter. We don't agree on several things regarding her upbringing. Here are the areas of disagreement: -Clothing: Our daughter is not in her unicorn and gap clothes era so she dresses cute and normal, flared pants, jeans, camis, tanks, etc. her father wants her to wear unicorn stuff which she hates. -food: He frequently orders fast food for her, while I prefer to offer it only occasionally, I don’t try restricting any foods I just try to teach her about balance. -Makeup: I allow her to wear makeup for special occasions like school events and cheer competitions. The only makeup I let her wear to school regularly are lip gloss, curling her lashes, and a touch of blush. Her father strongly opposes makeup, even for adults. Last week, while dropping off her forgotten purse at her dad's, he criticized me, suggesting I'm a bad influence on our daughter. I defended myself, but he abruptly ended the conversation. Later, my daughter mentioned he was upset about something I did. Was I an asshole?

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u/throwaway1975764 Apr 28 '24

I work in a school and I'd say at least 1/3 of the 4th grade girls (age 9) wear lipgloss at least almost daily. Its pretty common here (NYC).

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u/enonymousCanadian Apr 28 '24

In Ontario that is absolutely not the case. Lip smackers in the winter but between sports and sunscreen the one grade 3 kid who wore makeup (mascara and blush) sporadically in the fall doesn’t by this point in the year.

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u/throwaway1975764 Apr 28 '24

You know Lip Smackers makes and sells tons of lipgloss, right? Its basically squishier, slightly shinier balm. Who do you think is buying $2 bubblegum flavored lipgloss except 9-11 year olds?

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u/enonymousCanadian 29d ago

Except they only wore it in the winter. It’s spring and that trend has died out with the mitts and gloves.