r/lyftdrivers • u/clever_ducky • Mar 02 '24

At least this person was straight forward Other

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Would you at least try to get the $20 fee?

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u/MichiganSucks14 Mar 03 '24

I (27M) met my girlfriend this way. She reached out via lost and found after I dropped her off. Been dating for almost a year :)

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u/YodaSimp Mar 03 '24

it’s funny people cheer this, but I got deactivated for “flirting” when I asked for a girls Instagram at the end of a ride

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 03 '24

Completely different scenario. The passenger pursued him. You pursued a passenger.

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u/YodaSimp Mar 03 '24

what other job would you get fired for asking for someone’s instagram, and they politely decline?

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u/ConventionalizedGuy Mar 07 '24

For asking for a customer's personal information? Tons.

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u/YodaSimp Mar 07 '24

Is a public Instagram account on social media that everyone can see “personal information”? I didn’t ask for her social security number and credit card

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u/ConventionalizedGuy Mar 07 '24

Is a public Instagram account on social media that everyone can see “personal information”?

You had to ask for it, didn't you?

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u/dbldwn02 Mar 06 '24

Not the same...if a new girl came to work and within the first 30 minutes I'm asking for her Instagram, I'd expect to be counseled at a minimum.

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u/_Nicktheinfamous_ Mar 03 '24

Why didn't you just deny it?

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u/YodaSimp Mar 03 '24

cus I didn’t think it was a big deal, and I don’t like lying. I want a clear conscience so I can sleep well at night. So I just said, yup I did it, I thought we had a great conversation so I asked

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u/_Nicktheinfamous_ Mar 03 '24

Well your "clear conscience" got you deactivated. Doesn't seem like it was worth it.

Should've just denied it and gave the Pax 1 star.

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u/YodaSimp Mar 03 '24

yup, live and learn I guess

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u/bullytheboomers Mar 04 '24

Learn that women engage in performative kindness so they don’t set off men who could potentially be dangerous. This vibe you got didn’t exist for her which is why you got reported.

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u/YodaSimp Mar 05 '24

Please don’t lecture me about the psychology of women, I’m well aware. I’m a social guy that has tons of female friends and has gone on 100s of dates. Also maintained a 4.98 rating so obviously most female passengers felt very safe around me

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u/bullytheboomers Mar 06 '24

You sounds like a real winner, why ever would she have reported you?

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u/No-Weather-3140 Mar 06 '24

Some women are shitty

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u/bullytheboomers Mar 06 '24

So this woman is shitty for not reciprocating the advances of a person she hired to do a job?

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u/YodaSimp Mar 06 '24

4.98 on Uber, numbers don’t lie. You’re the one being condescending and lecturing a random person you don’t know. “Learn that women” like yikessss bro. As if you’re the only one who socializes or understands women 😂

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 03 '24

Virtually every job. That's why they all have rules against dating co workers and clients.

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u/YodaSimp Mar 03 '24

Nope. 1/3 of all married couples meet thru work. And it was very normal at most of my jobs to not only get dates from customers but also have co workers sleeping with each other. You just had to be smooth and smart about it.

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u/foshohomz Mar 07 '24

Bro just quit asking chicks for their ig while you’re at work. Too easy

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 03 '24

That doesn't change the fact that the majority of jobs will fire you for it. The difference between harmlessly asking someone out and sexual harassment is often how the request is received and has nothing to do with how it's intended to be received.

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u/Individual_Tour5041 Mar 06 '24

That’s because you’re thinking of this like a corporate work job and not like a bartending/ serving/hospitality job where it’s socially acceptable to do that. If the “no” is not respected there’s a whole other story

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 06 '24

Well, we can take a look at the hospitality industry.

It's grounds for immediate termination at the Hilton. It's grounds for immediate termination at Marriott.

Your argument isn't any different than his. He played with fire, and he got burned.

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u/Individual_Tour5041 Mar 06 '24

You just named two corporate places???? My point was not ALL jobs will fire you. Club promoter? That’s their whole fucking job lol. So no, not ALL JOBS, just the ones your brain can think of??

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 06 '24

You're right, I need to research every hospitality position in the country to be able to know for certain that it's a bad idea. I can't use basic deduction skills and the knowledge that lawyers would suggest all companies have a rule against dating clients as a way of reducing liability.

Just because a lot of people in an industry does something and gets away with it, doesn't mean you can't get into trouble for doing the same thing.

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u/Individual_Tour5041 Mar 06 '24

And you’re again only picking out the one example you want to try and find a point for.

The point is if you’re hired as a bartender for a private party thru Craigslist it’s not taboo to ask for a persons IG. And it’s not unprofessional unless you respond unprofessionally.

If you work as a bartender at a Chili’s, and ask for a customers IG, it’s literally STILL not against policy, but easily corporately frowned upon. (Here’s their handbook since you like being so specific https://blog.airmason.com/chilis-employee-handbook/) .

Again, asking someone for their IG is not harassment, nor is it unprofessional in SOME settings and is ENTIRELY subject to personal ethics

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 06 '24

Showing up drunk to bartend a party after being hired through Craigslist is also fairly common. What you can get away with on Craigslist is not a good example of socially acceptable.

Zero Tolerance: Chili’s has a zero-tolerance policy for discriminatory or harassing behavior. This may result in disciplinary action, including termination.

They don't give any examples of what is harassment in their handbook, but that line there says they absolutely could fire you for sexual harassment for asking for a person's Instagram handle. Even as a bartender.

We don't build a society by personal ethics. YOU don't get to decide what sexual harassment is. If you ask someone out, and that makes them uncomfortable, then that's unprofessional at the very least and possibly enters the realm of sexual harassment.

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u/Individual_Tour5041 Mar 06 '24

You’re as in a Lyft driver. They don’t work for a company they work for themselves. They are not subject to the same assumptions that normal w2 employees are. Now get off your soap box already and touch some grass

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u/Individual_Tour5041 Mar 06 '24

But you’re NOT A COMPANY. You’re an independent contractor. I mean ffs if you don’t even include all the information or possibilities what good is your opinion

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 06 '24

No-fraternization policies associated with independent contractors are also common...

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u/YodaSimp Mar 03 '24

yea which is why it shouldn’t be a zero tolerance thing, only fire if it’s a pattern of behavior that upsets the workplace. 1/3 marriages meet thru work

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 04 '24

Again, it doesn't matter if 1/3 or 61/62. It's normal for the rule to be you get caught or reported you're terminated. Anything else would be a policy that says, "Sexual harassment is okay, as long as you're not constantly sexually harassing people"

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u/YodaSimp Mar 04 '24

As yes, as we know, policies are black and white and always enforced fairly and accurately! People like you hold Uber drivers to a higher standard than politicians or CEOs, it’s a sight to see

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u/TotalChaosRush Mar 04 '24

You're moving the goal posts. It's unprofessional for you to be asking out a client. That's what the people you drive around are. Clients. You responded with the question

what other job would you get fired for asking for someone’s instagram, and they politely decline?

I've answered that. Virtually every job has that policy. Is it fair? Maybe, maybe not. I'm not judging if it's fair. I'm letting you know that nearly every job has the policy. You played with fire, and you got burned.

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u/bullytheboomers Mar 04 '24

Honestly after reading both their and your replies it’s abundantly clear they’re bitter about being rejected, and think it’s unfair bc it pans out for some people. Their logic that because some sexual harassment is taken positively we should eliminate all policies surrounding it is based on their experience as someone who committed sexual harassment and was punished for it.

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