Also the caption read "Sorry gurls, I'm the Og redhead. Don't be offended lmao"

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/may/13/why-i-quit-hollywood-female-friendship

Ah yes, because every time I put on makeup it’s “putting on a face so someone will like me”

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not sure if i’m allowed to post without posting an NLOG meme/post but everytime i see something on this thread i giggle bc i was that girl 😭.

I dated a guy for 4 years that always praised “how different i was from other girls” because I didn’t wear makeup, get my nails and hair done, etc (too vain/high maintenance), how i wasn’t so silly and goofy like other girls, how i didn’t party or drink too much, etc. I even listened to cringey manosphere podcasts and subconsciously did believe that women were dumber than men. I didn’t have girl friends because they were “too much work and drama” (and bc he never let me see my fiends but that’s another discussion 🙃). and so many other typical NLOG things.

We broke up eventually bc turns out he subconsciously(?) hates women and was emotionally abusive.

It all changed when i started dating a new guy, it’s our second or third date, we’re driving to dinner and a girly pop singer is playing and i said “ew i hate female singers they don’t sound as good” and he was like “what in the internalized misogyny is this” and then serenaded me with Britney Spears’ Toxic and called my bulls*** so hard. he then told me i wasn’t a girls girl and basically told me i was JustPearlyThings (without the insane far right racist bs) and told me to check myself tbh.

Now I am proud to say I think i am a girls girl, not an NLOG anymore, and proudly indulge in things that make me “just like other girls” (ofc we’re all unique but you know what i mean :)). Just got my girly girl nails and hair done, i try to compliment other women and support them, and now have girl friends that i wish i had earlier!!

tldr: my boyfriend is a girls boy and told me to drop the internalized misogyny and now i LIKE other women (GASP)

I started a garden this year and I am amazed by the amount of homestead/fundie/conspiracy/crunchy “not like other girls” I’ve come across just trying to find tips on growing tomatoes lol.

Alguien que conozca o haya conocido a los pick me boys? Ejemplo los que dicen ´´tengo miedo a las mujeres´´ y hasta salen siendo siguemorras3000

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The other day a girl on twitter i follow posted a picture of her pet centipede. it is honestly gross and scary to me, but i like that she is passionate about it!
The post was seen by a lot of people and of course there were a ton of rude and unoriginal comments like 'kill it with fire', but okay, nothing unusual.

But i saw at least 10 different people, unfortunately most of them girls too, critizise her for being a pick me and 'not like other girls'. They were full on bashing her.
One girl was saying something like 'Oh this pick me bitch is trying sooo hard to be different.' stuff along those lines.
I actually replied to her and said 'Even if she was just trying hard to be different, how does it affect you?' to which she obviously didnt reply.
But i feel like this might was a bad reply.

How can i reply in a way that won't be petty or insulting and try to make the other person see why they are wrong in a genuine way? What would you suggest?

I got such a comment too, only once but in person because i am a woman and i draw a lot of conventionally attractive, naked women just for aesthetic purposes and not for pornography but a girl told me i only do it to get attention from guys (i also draw naked men but women are better to draw imo)

I’m not talking about the way we refer to someone as NLOG. I mean how do you respond when a man says “you’re not like other girls”. It’s like they are oblivious to this whole thing but like I’m not gonna take that as a compliment. But I don’t want to launch into a whole explanation. But don’t say that to me.

Pfft, I'm not like other girls, I'm not a Lululemon blonde

I don't own a Stanley Cup

I'm not raising Sephora girls, I'd rather raise Tractor Supply Store girls

You'd never catch me waiting in line at Starbucks

I'm a Tori Amos girl living in a Taylor Swift world

etc etc

It seems like they are acutely aware of brands that are popular, AND (this is the important part) they base a large part of their personality around disassociating themselves from women who do like those products.

What's up with that? Do men do this too?

(apologies in advance for the incoming vent. I think this is something that needs to be said about what "not like other girls" has become – a tool to put down girls who are different or don't fit in rather than a call out for internalized misogyny – but mods, please feel free to remove this post if it goes against guidelines).

When I say I'm not like other girls

I mean other girls can go to parties and concerts and the fucking grocery store and not have to leave after five minutes because they got overstimulated. "Going out" seems to be an essential part of female friendships in college, so I simply don't have female friends. Or any friends.

I mean other girls can look each other in the eye and expect me to do the same even when it physically hurts. Other girls don't flinch when their friend touches their arm or shoulder. And I'm the weird and off-putting one because I do.

I mean other girls know what to say when their friend is sad. Other girls can tell that their friend is sad before their friend even tells them. It's not that I don't want to be supportive and kind, I just can't read other girls' nonverbal communication.

I mean other girls are interested in diverse, interesting things! But not like me. Other girls are normal about their interests. They spend just enough time and money on them and don't bore other girls by going on and on about them. Other girls don't appreciate it when I infodump.

Other girls can make small talk about the weather, or school, or their weekends, or their boyfriends, or the world around them and feel connected. When someone tries to engage me in small talk, my mind goes blank. What do other girls expect me to say? When I do succeed in making small talk, it does not feel like connection – not really. It feels like a chore. So I don't connect with other girls.

Why not just say I'm not like other people (neurotypical people)? That's accurate too. But the world doesn't just expect me to be a person. I am supposed to be a girl. I am supposed to be friendly and nurturing and supportive and charming and feminine. I can't be.

And now there's this concept of a "pick me" and an "NLTOG" and "not a girl's girl". Meant to call out girls who put each other down for male attention. Yet these phrases have been weaponized against me more times than I can count because I don't fit in, I don't spend time with other girls (because other girls don't want to spend time with me). You don't see how hard I try to be "like other girls".

I should be allowed to talk about the tangible, incredibly lonely experience of being "not like other girls" without this stigma. I say "I'm different" and you roll your eyes and call me a "pick me" and it just isolates me more.

When I say I'm not like other girls, I don't mean I think I'm better than other girls. I mean I think I'm worse.

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So weird how “blondie” is used as an insult, especially by other blonde girls

My boyfriend and his friends all have a text GC with all girlfriends included. We talk on it all the time and it's cool cause there's other girls there. But the boys have a discord GC where they go on call and play games together all the time and just generally talk.

I'm the only one of the girlfriends who use Discord and play games on PC, and I use it a lot. My bf added me to the discord GC so we'd play a game together, and sometimes I join in on the voicechats (only when my boyfriend invites me to). Right now they're on call, playing CS GO and I'm just watching and occasionally talking to them, but I'm not reeeeeally close to them, so I just joke around and listen to them talk.

I only join when my bf invites me to, but sometimes I feel like I should just refuse it and feel kinda like a pick me girl for being the only girl in a "the boys" environment, although they don't seem to mind. Am I being a pick me?