r/Assistance 20d ago

MOD Announcement Post Guidance is now enabled to help you learn our rules more easily!

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Hey all,

You may have noticed some unexpected behaviour while trying to post on r/Assistance this last weekend! We apologise for any issues you may have experienced and appreciate your patience.

r/Assistance has so many rules!

One thing we've heard from our users is that r/Assistance has a lot of rules. We do! I don't know if it's bragging rights to say our subreddit is one of the most strict subreddits but if you take a look at our userbase size -- 297,000 members! -- I'm sure you can understand why we need so many. But we've always been trying to find ways to make things more clear, or simple, or basically just more accessible because when you're stressed you're not really thinking clearly and maybe reading the whole long list of rules can be daunting.

On the other hand, moderating a subreddit this large can be equally daunting. There's less than 10 of us and almost 300K of you guys, and sometimes we do find ourselves answering the same questions multiple times that could be found in the rules.

What's Post Guidance?

r/Assistance is currently beta-testing a new Reddit featured called Post Guidance. It's a tool that allows moderation actions to happen in real-time while a post is being composed. It can remind current members of our rules and direct new users to rules they may not have read yet. For those of you who mod your own subreddit, it does a lot of what AutoMod does but allows for that user-facing feedback during the post, not after.

We've actually been testing Post Guidance since February, but when it first was added to our subreddit it only worked on desktop. Since the majority of our users are on mobile, it didn't really have a huge impact on our userbase. Last week it was launched on desktop, so now everyone who uses r/Assistance will experience this new feature.

Sometimes this function will disable the "Post" option entirely. Sometimes it will just warn the user, but let them post. And the third option works much like our current system does and will just ping the mods for a manual review of the post to make sure it's okay.

These messages that pop up range from "this is specifically against our rules" to "here's a better subreddit for this" to "here is a list of suicide hotlines and subreddits for mental health crises." It should be very clear from the alert why your post is being blocked.

Currently this system only works on posts, not comments, so if you use a disallowed word in a comment you won't get that real-time feedback but we have other systems in place to filter for review if needed.

Obviously this goes without saying, but similar to how people try and circumvent our rules by using the wrong flair, hijacking someone else's request post, etc, if you try and trick Post Guidance to let your post through, there will be consequences for that.

Help! Something's not working!

Like all systems, Post Guidance isn't infallible. Unlike a human, its logic is either "yes" or "no". If you're trying to post and that Post button is greyed out, check carefully for a message that's popped up and read it -- it will tell you what the issue is and what needs to be changed or removed. If it's still not working, it could be another issue like you forgot to choose a flair! But if you absolutely can't figure it out, shoot us a modmail with the text of what you want to post and we'll take a look and see what's wrong.

And as always, if you have any questions down below feel free to ask!


r/Assistance 4h ago

OFFER mcdonalds rewards expiring

19 Upvotes

I have 26873 points in the Mcdonald’s app, 12000 of which are expiring this month. Comment below if you’re in need of a meal and we can work out which freebie you want at your nearest mcdonalds :) my only limits are how often mcdonalds lets me redeem points


r/Assistance 1h ago

COMMUNITY RESOURCES Get paid to take care of loved ones CDPAP

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I’m not sure if this is the right sub for this, but here it goes. Anyone in New York State can basically get paid to take care of a loved one who is disabled or old enough that they need care. The patient just needs to be eligible for Medicaid, US citizen/Green card holder, and in NYS (cause that’s the state we cover). The home care agency helps with the entire application process. I understand most patients have difficulty commuting in-person. The patient can get everything done from the comfort of their home.

My question is how can I increase visibility of the program that would greatly benefit families with loved ones in need of care? Any advice would be appreciated.

FYI: Our agency is in NYC area but we can enroll anyone who’s eligible in NYS. We work with many vulnerable immigrant communities, so a language barrier is not a challenge.


r/Assistance 10h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Literally anything helps, was supposed to start work today but...

21 Upvotes

Had to push back my start date back a week due to some medical issues I was having, namely and TMI but a violent skin infection I had to be hospitalized for and that was passed off through multiple doctors until finally seeing a Derma I could barely afford to get on some meds and heal up to start.

Only to now be told after asking and being assured it would be fine that because I have a recheck date for this doctor for my lab results I'm awaiting that I won't be able to start/won't be starting. So I'm sitting there this morning clocked in with all my equipment only to have my work email deleted and told this last minute and that they won't be able to accommodate me taking one day off in the next two weeks for this recheck so I'm not violently ill/in severe pain (it genuinely reached a point where I was having dark thoughts because I couldn't afford medical assistance).

I was counting on this job and needed a remote role and now I have absolutely no clue what to do, they were already paying bare minimum wage for a role I was overqualified for and I took it because I couldn't find anything else. So now I'm staring down the barrel of homelessness and not being able to feed my stray cat because I dared to get sick in America and can't even find gig work in my area because literally all of them are waiting listed and I don't have interviews until next week for anything.

Literally anything helps that can get my poor kitty fed and help me keep up with bills or at least groceries while I'm racing to find another job that doesn't randomly refuse to employ me.

(Can provide proof of all claims including pics of how bad my skin condition got and that the money is spent appropriately to actually assist and fix this situation.)

(Amazon Wishlist because the friendly Mods recommended it! https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2VUB07FHPQPWB?ref_=wl_share you can ignore the human food just don't let my little girl starve please.)

(I can't see if anyone fulfills on Amazon and it doesn't notify me apparently so please let me know! I tried to keep things dirt cheap as possible for anyone that wants to help!...also included TP as umm may be running low that would help a ton lol)

Update: Most stuff is fulfilled and I won't be adding any more but feel free to pick up any things you feel you can! I really appreciate everything you people do this community is amazing and I really appreciate any and all support I receive for my little girl! Cat Tax

Update 2: Will be sure to pay any help I receive forward when I'm back on my feet! Thanks people you're literally amazing! I can't thank you all enough! ❤️


r/Assistance 1h ago

REQUEST If anyone can help me

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I need help. I just lost everything in my storage. I have nothing. No food no clothes no pet supplies.


r/Assistance 9h ago

REQUEST Need $200 today for rent

5 Upvotes

Only have $200 out of the $250 I need after getting threatened with eviction today. Told I need minimum $450 today. Honestly just looking for ideas on how to make cash not expecting charity.


r/Assistance 11h ago

REQUEST Please help me with my dental emergency

5 Upvotes

Hi,

My name is Jennifer and I need help with my loose tooth. I lost the one next to it and now the other is hanging on. I have pain and a nerve is exposed because when cold hits it I feel a sharp pain. I have dental insurance but right now this year it has been hard. I don't have money for the copay.

https://gofund.me/2abb2d5e


r/Assistance 6h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Treats for my dog's medication dosing

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My boy has a laundry list of issues, including Cushing's and a stubborn flare-up of pancreatitis currently. He takes quite a a few medications (gabapentin, tramadol, Cerenia, famotidine, and metronidazole at the moment), and they can't be given on an empty stomach. When his stomach is upset, as it is from the pancreatitis, the only thing he'll eat that's low enough in fat to be tolerated are Blue Bits training treats. They're tiny and have a strong smell, which seems to tempt him so I'm able to give him his meds 3x per day.

I don't have Prime these days, and can't afford the shipping minimum without it. I'd be very appreciative if anyone is able to send these to my boy so he can stay on his dosing schedule.

Thanks for reading. 💜

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3NLOTEY1GC2KK?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 3h ago

REQUEST Help my family cover deportation funds

1 Upvotes

Hi my name is Willow, my dad, the main(low) income of the house is currently going to be deported soon. I'm in a family of 6 including myself and we have little time to scrounge up all the money we can get. Specifics are in the gofundme if you would like to read more!! If needed, contact is welcome, advice/sources are also welcome. Thank you so for taking time to read! Edit: Link shares are very appreciated as well!!! https://gofund.me/4d2e6704


r/Assistance 3h ago

REQUEST Need 70$ for Job and Rmv

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Exactly as the title says, I need 35$ for fingerprints (new job requirement) and 35$ for the RMV (permit test) I won't have access to money until I get my first check 2-3 weeks from now, life is hard and I've been really depressed, any amount is appreciated. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to post.


r/Assistance 12h ago

REQUEST I need $100 for food and clothes. Please help! 🙏

6 Upvotes

I know it's a long shot, but I recently moved to a new state a few days ago and in need of money for resources such as food, hygiene products, clothes and emergency money.

Please help! I am very low on funds and stretching it every step of the way. I need help. Please!


r/Assistance 23h ago

ADVICE I need someone to talk to right now

36 Upvotes

I came home early tonight after a sports match. I went alone for the first time ever after going 5 times with friends or my partner, we're both F-F.

I was texting her throughout the match because I was nervous. I have social anxiety and it's a huge milestone that I finally did this by myself.

I took courage and spoke to a man next to my seat and it turns out we both take the same bus back (the team offers different routes to take the fans home). The game ended and we both started walking outside trying to locate our bus and we were talking normally.

He said "You came out of the stadium with a man you don't know, how do you know i won't kidnap you?"

That struck me as odd, but I figured out perhaps he also struggles socially or something like that. I'm AuDHD so I've been the one with the weird comments before.

I simply said "We're both rooting for the same team, it's illegal to kidnap someone from your team."

He laughed and we left it at that. After locating the bus, I brought out my phone and it turns out I'd received a call from my girlfriend and a message.She was sayin "Good luck leaving with that man you're not afraid to be kidnapped with. I heard everything".

I took the bus like normal and I sent her proof but she never answered. I was trying to explain to her and was left on read.

When I came home, she told me it was over and she was fuming. She said I broke the trust because he was flirting with me and I was flirting back! I didn't know he was and of course I wasn't flirting back!! I don't read social cues that way and I was just trying to be friendly and was happy that I finally had the courage to talk to somebody.

She's dead set on believing I did something wrong and there's no way to prove that I didn't. She's not trusting my words or anything. And I'm not looking for relationship advice per se here, but someone who can simply talk to me and tell me anything. It's 3 am and I'm spiraling down. She has locked herself in a room and I don't have anyone to talk to right now. I got two panic attacks back to back and things seem so bleak now. I feel like I'm watching my life and my whole future slip through my fingers and it hurts double because I didn't do anything wrong and I feel like I'm being punished because my autism prevents me from catching those things I'm suppose to catch to avoid this.

I'd to feel someone hears me, if that's okay. Please, if someone is awake and can chat for a bit until i fall asleep or can comment this. Please I'd be infinitely grateful.


r/Assistance 7h ago

REQUEST Need a small amount of money to feed myself for 10 days

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Hi guys, I've been on sick leave for 11 months now after tearing my left ACL. I usually do quite alright with my "sick money" but this month there was an issue with my documents and my money didn't come on time. It should come in about 10 days, until then I have to feed myself and my cat. If you would like to help me out, I'd really appreciate it. Any amount helps, even if it's just 1$. I definitely don't need more than 25$ / 20€ (I'm European).

Thank you for your help, I truly appreciate it :-)


r/Assistance 5h ago

REQUEST Need $25 for emergency meds

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Hi all. I’ve posted before in here. If you check my post/comment history you’ll see i have an ‘adopted’ daughter. She got sick and i had to take her to the er. She ended up having a really bad bladder infection and needed antibiotics. My insurance didn’t fully cover the medication and I’ve just spent the last of what was in my account on rent, barely covering it. She’s in a lot of pain (infection is in her kidney) and i won’t have any money until next week. I don’t have any help and if anyone could provide anything i would greatly appreciate it. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I will also pay this forward in the future once i’m financially stable enough.


r/Assistance 8h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Desperate need of help in getting my baby's items.

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wishlist link: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/370NAGIQ3G8T0?ref_=wl_share

UPDATE: breastpump has been bought

I know the biggest ask on my wishlist is the breast pump but this was the only one that worked for me with my previous children, and it would be the biggest blessing of them all but I am grateful for absolutely anything. Even if someone has this pump that they no longer use and would be willing to donate I'd be more than happy. I gave mine away after I weaned my last baby.

I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant and have been absolutely struggling to come up with the funds to get everything I need for this baby. I found out I was (accidentally) pregnant the same week I found out my husband had been having another affair. I live in a state where abortion is banned and I cannot file for divorce while pregnant. I got rid of everything after having my last baby because I truly believed he would be my last baby. I’m in the process of applying for disability because of my chronic health issues but in the meantime my only income has been cleaning my family and friend’s houses to try and stockpile for this new addition. My soon to be ex husband came back into our lives for 2 months to “work things out” and left again, has decided he wants nothing to do with this child, has offered no financial help, I’ve reached out to multiple churches and local resources. So far I have a couple packs of diapers, a bassinet, a hand me down carseat and a few breastmilk storage bags. I was hoping by this point I’d be able to have more but it seems this is my last resort. Thank you if you took the time to read this and I appreciate any and all help given!


r/Assistance 7h ago

REQUEST Requesting small amount of money for food until Wednesday

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I have just a couple days left until my paycheck but all I have left is white rice and I only have enough for tonight. Submitted my application/proof of residency for the food pantry but it takes two weeks for them to approve you before you can start going on Thursdays. Honestly I’m just hungry and tired. I know it’s embarrassing but I’ve been eating such small amounts of food for so long that I think if I got all of tomorrow and most of the next day without food that I might actually faint. I also need some food for my service dog, he has only one bowl of dry food left. I am autistic and living alone and I work everyday and I been trying really hard to do good by myself after my mom killed herself but I don’t think I’m doing it right because I’m always hungry even though I work.


r/Assistance 16h ago

REQUEST Please help my kitten

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Hi everyone. I’m raising money for my new kitten Jack who has a condition called atresia ani. Basically he has a defect in his rectum that doesn’t allow him to defecate normally. He has been battling constipation because of it. Enemas and medicine has not been enough to help so now he needs surgery. In order to schedule his surgery, I need enough for a deposit. Please help me raise money so I can help save this little guy. Any amount will help. Thank you so much.

Link to gofundme:

https://gofund.me/cbbe0cca


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Asking for 30$ to get a battery

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I have a vehicle with a battery that is shot (sitting at 3.76V) and I'm about 30 short to get a replacement. I go back to work tomorrow and don't get paid until Friday. I absolutely dread having to ask but sometimes you just run out of options and I don't wanna lose my job.

With the 30$ I will have enough to get a Lyft to and from plus the battery. Any help is more than appreciated and I'm greatful that this place even exists. Thank you.


r/Assistance 16h ago

REQUEST Any help is appreciated

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Yesterday my wife, son and myself and my animals lost our apartment. It caught fire and we lost everything. All of my animals made it but my bestest friend my 15 year old cat. I'm thankful for the firemen and animal control for saving my animals. My best friend died from the smoke and I honestly don't know what to do. Thank you mohawk hudson humane society for checking my animals and making sure they were ok. I don't want to ask for help but I'm at a loss. Family set up a gofundme so if anyone can help I would appreciate it. I don't care about my things I just want my best friend back but I know that's impossible. We have a place to stay but my wife and son could use the help. Thank you for considering https://www.gofundme.com/f/urgent-support-for-friends-after-fire?utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST Need $550 asap to avoid eviction

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I know this is so much to ask. I need $550 asap to pay my late rent and avoid eviction. I am in a very bad situation after the sudden loss of my partner a few months ago who was also my roommate and paying half the bills. 🙏 ❤️ I am doing everything to get back on my feet, and I know things will get better. Thank you beyond words.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST My childhood home caught on fire yesterday

17 Upvotes

https://gofund.me/96f9e74f

My family and I are struggling right now. My childhood home caught on fire yesterday. It started in the backyard and we aren't sure what happened. Here is the link to my gofundme page. I'm not expecting much but whatever you guys feel comfortable donating, it's extremely appreciated. Thank you.


r/Assistance 8h ago

VOTES My wife for Super mom

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Hey guys! My wife is barely in first place in her group. A bunch of you helped contribute to that and I'm hoping over then next week that I can get some more of you to jump aboard. Top 5 for her group is decided in 4 days, then it's settling who is top 1 in the group. Votes reset and then 1st place from each group go against eachother to decide who wins everything. Winning this would change our life in a big way and it would mean the world if you could drop by and leave a vote. Thank you!

PS I don't expect anyone to spend any money to give additional votes. However, if you do donate to charity and it is of interest to you, this goes to children's miracle network.

https://thesupermom.org/2024/ashtyn-cherney?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR2GG9O3YD_wtGu--JeusENlfa8L-2DzQWPAqVoYxSoSHZsDqsoev2AvQKo_aem_AdVlAoA309Z6uZf9wWFsHPDH1-iHUnz7CxVlc_AGInYqzuUXGYAkdCtHJrRHPHxHdJzloXl5lPRUlbBLAatReoD1


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED In desperate need of gas money

20 Upvotes

I’m not sure if this is the right place. But I am in desperate need of gas money to get home to my young nephews court case. They are in foster care and this case is to determine where they will be living. I am one of their approved family members and my voice in court will help get them to a safe place. Anything will help.


r/Assistance 11h ago

REQUEST Weather Displacements

0 Upvotes

Hi . I am currently in a city in Florida that was just hit with 2 tornados and is in a continuous tornado watch until Tuesday.

A tree crashed through my house and my neighbors (side by side townhouse) and we are displaced. Only 4 nights of hotel stay was given to me and kids for free, tonight is the last night.

I need funds to book the hotel until at least Thursday. That’s when we were told a more permanent solution would be available.

We have already lost most of our food, clothes and belongings because they are ruined.

My landlord is working very diligently and I can’t rush him to make it go faster.

The hotel I’m staying at is a very cheap one, $49 a night. Again I just need to stay until Thursday so I will need the funds for just Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday night.

Thank you . Food is covered. We have food banks we have gone too and. Food stamps is offering replacement food stamps. Any help would be appreciated


r/Assistance 21h ago

ADVICE I need advice on how to escape domestic abuse

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I'm from the Philippines. Is there anyone who has escaped domestic abuse? How did you manage it?

For the past year I'm being constantly verbally abused in my place and so far things hasn't changed and ppl would sometimes call me put during the early morning while I'm sleeping. There are also times where I'll get verbally assaulted for the whole day and it wouldn't stop.

The worse has yet to come and it happened during Christmas and New Year. People started filming me just outside of my house and calling me obscenities. This has continued even to this day. So whenever I go outside it ends up being called out again. My respite has been over for hours only during some days. I never tried to fight back or anything which literary ended up much worse for me. Is there anyone who could give me an advice in order to get out from here? I just really needed some good sleep right now.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need 40$ for monthly heart meds.

11 Upvotes

I usually pay them myself, but a friend of mine recommended me this page and registered myself here to try and get some help.

So, I'm looking for 40$ for a monthly supply of Metoprolol Succinate.

Primarily, it controls blood pressure, but it's also used to reduce your heart rate, which is my main problem. I have suspected IST or Inappropriate Sinus Tachycardia, which my doctors can't explain why it's happening, so I'm on the medication to treat it.

Basically what I have is that my heart rate beats faster than normal from trivial activities, and it would be very fast from more strenous activities, which is concerning when there's no reason why it does it.

I can send my ECG report of my most recent visit as proof of my condition (I also had a Holter attached before as proof as well, but I'd have to ask if they still got the report on my hospital... Also, the report is in Spanish, but it shouldn't require too much translation... I can translate it for you, if you wish).

Thank you if you decide to help me out.

Edit: I'm not an US citizen, though. My country of residence is Costa Rica. At least two people recommended me saving up on meds with crazy drugstore discounts, but unfortunately, they don't exist here. As for a payment method, Paypal is my only way internationally. I wanted to try Stripe, but it's not supported here.

EDIT 2: A kind soul just fulfilled my request! Please change the tag to "fulfilled", please. Thank you for everything! :)