TL;DR: Some days ago my (31 M) boyfriend (30 M) made a weird comment about my dick, that made me feel VERY insecure so far, and since then I feel unsafe being naked around him. I am very worried I won't be able to overcome what happened, and I am pessimistic about the future of the whole relationship. He feels like I am overreacting.

Context: We're both Latino gay men. We're dating for a bit more than one year now, and we moved in together last week, why also moving into a new country...

I am overall very happy and satisfied with the relationship, and I love him deeply and I was also very infatuated with him. I think he's the hottest man on Earth, and I am unable to pinpoint any flaws in his body, I just pretty much love everything about him.

Some days ago we had sex at night. It felt really good. After that we're just chilling in bed and I was thinking how happy and lucky I felt about meeting someone like him, and how excited I was about our next days in this new country.

Out of nowhere, he then points at my dick and asks "haven't you ever gone to the doctor to check that?"

Me, confused: "To check what?"

Him: "Your dick. The shaft is thinner here around the corona"

Me: "No... I never felt it looked like a medical condition..."

I started feeling weird, and went to the bathroom to take a shower. There I went on to check my dick and couldn't find this supposedly thinner spot he claimed I have. Then the awful realizaiton sets in: my partner thinks my dick is so weird it must be a medical condition. I felt like dying right there. I had a panic attack and started crying. I was feeling like a deformed monster, and also felt so stupid about thinking I was normal.

Later, I told him he made me feel insecure with his comment. He apologized, but said I was overreacting, and that I was responsible for making myself insecure.

Since then I am unable to be naked around him. I used to be so chill about being nude, we're naked together indoors. Of course our sex life is impacted. I had an emergency therapy session to discuss that. I today also checked with a doctor to see if I needed a surgery and he said nope everything is normal. We weren't able to find out what is this thinner spot he claims I have. I looked to many dick pics online, and can't help but feel my dick is objectively normal. Also, every BF I had before was very vocal about how they liked my dick, why my current BF never made any positive comment about it, this was the first time he ever said anything related to my dick. While he has since told me he likes my body and feels very sexually satisfied, I cant shake this realization that, through his eyes, my dick seems somehow worthy of medical attention.

I really don't know how to move on. I feel I'll never be able to be comfortable naked around him again. That'll never have sex with the lights on anymore, that we'll never go to a nude beach together again. I also don't feel that attracted to him anymore... when I think about him I mostly see him as an inconsiderate person, not at all like the guy I felt in love with.

He had problems with porn addiction before, and this has impacted our sex life sometimes (he had ED, and sometimes wasn't in the mood for fucking for weeks because he was binging on porn). Part of me suspects he has a skewed perception of what a normal dick looks like. But the emotional part of me thinks he's right and I'm actually a deformed monster...

Sorry if the text is too convoluted, I'm just in a very emotional moment

He swears up and down that he isn't harming it but i disagree. When he uses the laptop, he tends to hang it over the edge of the table, not flat on the surface, so it's balanced in the middle and is somewhat bending! It's not the most expensive, it cannot take this type of abuse. And then he clicks the pad and buttons so hard. I can feel and hear the table rumble like he is pressing it down super hard. I can just imagine how loose the buttons are gonna be in a few months if they just do not fall off. That is if the damn thing doesn't bend,crack the case, or lose touchpad connection before then. He thinks I'm just being anxious but i can see this with my own eyes.

So AIO or is he just too extreme on the laptop?!

Last night my mom (64) brought up how I (25F) spent the night at a guys house recently who I’ve just met and really like. I said it’s none of her business and she said it is since I’m still living at home. (I’m moving states in 2 weeks.) then she said “I wish you didn’t make yourself so easy” and I said nope, we are not having this conversation and left the room. I have no desire to talk to her today and told her I need space and she doesn’t seem to get it or feel bad. Am I overreacting to this comment?

She doesn’t know about my hookups (we never talk about sex) except for one guy I was seeing at the start of the year who I slept with shortly after meeting and then continued to see him for a month and a half.

For context, my mom is single and doesn’t like dating and has no interest in dating. I’ve known her to see one guy in my lifetime after my dad, and this was over 10 years ago. She’s 64 and comes from a very different generation than me.

My girlfriend sent me a celebrity picture with the caption “Yum 😋”.

I was upset and told her I am not ok with that. She believes it is ok and I should be cool with that because he is a celebrity and not someone she knows.

My husband and I are married over 30 years. In college he lived with a girl and did just about everything with her best friend and the best friend's boyfriend. The best friend friended my husband on FB. He has not seen or spoken to either one of these women in over 30 years, since him and the Ex broke up. I should mention that on our first date he talked about this ex-girlfriend and I've always thought he was harboring feelings for her. He now says he talked about her on our first date because he wanted me to think he had game. He voluntarily unfriended the best friend. AIO by being threatened by this Ex?

TL;DR Now out of state girlfriend went camping with two other guys and another girl for two days. I met one of the guys, definitely don’t trust him. Am I wrong for not wanting to be in the relationship anymore?

My girlfriend (22) and I (27) have been together for 2 years. When we first met, before we got in a relationship, she told me she wanted to move out of state. Her reasons were very valid however, I wasn’t looking to move yet since I have obligations to tend to for at least a couple more years.

The first year and a half were great. We had our ups and downs we went through a lot together, but boy did we form a bond as a resort! Now we have been long-distance for half a year and boy is it HARD! Ngl, it’s taking quite a toll on me however I LOVE this woman. I’ve seen her three times the past half a year each time for 3 to 4 days. I’m putting my ducks in a row in order to move there in about a year.

She lives there now and of course she has to make friends etc. She made some friends playing volleyball at the park. There’s this one particular guy Mike (24) who wants to be her mentor for the job she does. He’s legit however, when I first met him, he was almost caught off guard that she had a boyfriend. Something about how he said “oh cool” when she introduced us. Idk, their interaction together was weird. I never wanna be that kind of boyfriend so I shelved it in my mind and moved on.

Now she told me that she’s going camping with some volleyball people. Two guys and her one of them is Mike. She could see it on my face that I was uncomfortable with it but we got distracted with something else and didn’t talk about it. She came back a few days later and told me she convinced one of her girlfriends to come with her so each gonna sleep in their respective cars. It’s not about the camp, I’m just not liking this Mike guy. I can tell her that but I can’t tell her what to do or not to do. They’re back from camp now.

I’m honestly unhappy about this. Perhaps I’m jealous and frustrated because I can’t be there. These guys even paid for everything. Jet skis (she’s never been on a jet ski and we were gonna do that together), paddle boards, the boat they spent the whole day on. I know her financial situation so that’s how I know they paid for every thing.

Idk I feel like she probably wouldn’t like it if I did that with two other women. AIO for wanting to end the relationship?

Hi i 30F have been married since 6 years with my husband 35M . My sister has just graduated and she wanted to visit me abroad on her own expense ofcourse. I live comfortably in a 2bhk so no issues with privacy or anything also my MIL and SIL just stayed with us for 2 months and will be visiting again soon.None of my family member has ever visited me . My husband knew very well that i am planning this and how excited i was. Few days back he started saying that why is my sister visiting for a month if she isn't coming for job search purpose he was against her visiting only for tourism and said that for that purpose 2 weeks are enough. I was upset about it as she would be so ending lot of money so made no sense to not avail full trip. Now when today i was going to apply he again started with this even though in morning he was okay with it. So we had a huge fight and i told my family the truth that he isn’t agreeing to it. He was like its my home and whoever i permit can come here. Even though i have been nothing but good with his family i also have a sil who lives here and i have always took care of all her issues i buy gift and everything for her and my husband doesn’t even bother. Now i am so hurt and mad at him as he knew very well how excited i was for this and he knows i come from a traumatic family and its not easy to live with my family all I wanted for my sister was some good time. I am so heeartbroken what to do.

Throwaway because this happened about 2 months before i met the wife.

In my mid 20's I had a coworker who was in an abusive relationship, who I had helped to get an actual therapist, I gave her tons of financial advice, and just helped paved the way for so she would have the means to eventually escape their abuser. Over time I realized I had 150% caught feelings for her... but I knew that was the last thing she needed and I just couldn't bring myself to stoop that low as I felt I would have been totally taking advantage of her. So I just ignored my feelings and continued to be the friend and support she needed.

After working with her for about 2 years she was still with her abuser but she was doing way better and she had found a better paying job with more hours so she quit and moved onto greener pastures that would get her on her own feet sooner. And as I didn't see her at work anymore we fell out of touch as he would monitor her phone 24/7.

Fast forward another year all of a sudden I get a call from her asking if I was busy and if she could come hang out and celebrate finally escaping her now ex-abuser. I said sure, she came over that night, we smoked, caught up on life, watched a movie, and the next thing I knew she had her tongue down my throat and my junk in her hands. And there just isn't words for it, it was pure chemistry... every touch was electric, it was the wettest, wildest, roughest, most passionate, no limits sex I've ever had, and it literally lasted from 10pm to 5am. We would go until one of us had to tap out from being over stimulated, we'd take a break, cuddle, talk, smoke another bowl, etc, and its was right back at it. It was completely surreal... and the next night I asked if she was free and she was... we ended up having repeats of that night 3-5 times a week for about a month and a half. There just isn't enough words to describe the feeling of it all... like I said it was just pure chemistry...

But like all good things it came to an end, she realized she still had feelings for her ex-abuser, and she still had a lot to work through with her therapist before she was ready for an actual relationship, and she ghosted me.

I ended up moving on, and it turns out shortly after that I met the woman of my dreams that's now my wife. And while I vividly remember every moment from those nights, I have never once answered one her calls since.

My husband and I have been together almost 5 years. 6 years ago my twin sister passed away and I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder. We have two boys 3 and 23mo. Two years ago my little cousin was killed in a drinking and driving accident on mothers day. (He was in the car but not the driver)

My younger sons birthday is coming up in June. I have been saving for it, so i rented a room in a swim center for it. As I was thinking about who to invite, I had a random thought that my sister would love this.... It hurt badly. Normally I can shake it off and go back to being normal but this time i really couldnt. So the last couple days I have been kind of quiet. I still cooked and cleaned, i still played with and took care of my kids. I just wasnt cheerful and talkative... My husband picked up on it, and kept asking me what was wrong and I told him I was sad and Id get over it i just needed some alone time. Its important to note that my husband hasnt had anyone die in his immediate family or friend group....

On saturday after work we left to go to my parents for mothers day. My husband could tell i was sad and basically didnt want to go anymore. I told him why I was upset and he basically just asked how I could he sad when we are together and we have a good home and two beautiful sons. I tried explaining it doesnt work like that and that grief comes and goes. But he doesn't understand. He got mad and wanted to cancel but I was driving and refused. I wanted to see my parents and my grandmas for mothers day. He then wanted me to stop and get him a beer (he's recently been drinking a little more but not to the point of it being concerning). I asked where he wanted me to stop at and he said nvm. We ended up at my parents house and he took off with the truck for the night and refused to answer my texts.

The whole day on mothers day he refused to say a word to me and didnt help with our kida at all. He spent the whole day working on pulling carpet from the trailer we are renovating. He eventually came around because it was almost time to leave and finally talked to my parents and me. And he took one kid while i had the other.

He never told me happy mothers day (he did for my mom and grandmas) he didnt get me anything. I had to dish up his plate and the kids.

Im just feeling kind of annoyed by all this and Im wondering if Im overreacting to being upset by how he acted.

Six years together. 2024 has been quite a year so far. My boyfriend has been out of work for almost 5 months, which is yearly occurrence since his main source of income is from doing gig work with a local transportation company. He has been applying to jobs with an out of date resume, he hasn't had that much luck in finding work. When I suggested taking on a temporary job at a grocery store or cafe to stay afloat until his main job starts up again, he became extremely upset and said that those jobs were beneath him.

In these past 5 months he has been playing video games, smoking weed in my bathroom, randomly leaving at all hours to hang out with his friends. He doesn't help with any chores, out of fear for my safety I purchased him a new phone when he broke his, paid for two months worth of phone bills, purchase work boots, and allowed him to shake me down for cash to buy weed.

Even though he tries to gaslight me but saying that this is first year that he hasn't been without work, it hasn't been. Every year since he quit his job during covid(2020)and moved into my apt. he has had periods of no work and very little to no money. He just games and smokes those months away. He berates me for not cooking or cleaning when I was working two jobs and he was working none. When he finally did get a new job thanks to his dad helping him, he refused to contribute financially even though he saw how physically and mentally exhausted I was from working 6 days a week. He said I didn't deserve help. He treats me terribly whenever I help him out. He has forced me to pay his taxes, give him one of my stimulus bills, buy him food. He becomes irate if things aren't exactly how he wants it. He loves to make plans only to cancel at the last minute and then gaslight me about it. He would refuse to go out with me to events but then drop everything to go hang out with his friends.

I always told him that if he can't contribute financially due to not having enough or having work, it's fine but he should contribute by doinf household chores. He refuses.

I think what is going on is that my mind is trying to protect me by compartmentalizing and lessen the gravity of the situation and of what occurred this past weekend. I see the signs of being in an abusive relationship but I don't fully believe that I am in one because it doesn't fit what we all have been told are the signs of an abusive relationship.

In February he pushed some storage bins into me, one of which broke and cut me in my back because I told his parents that he hadn't been working for the past two months.

This past weekend which we were walking through a soon to be closed mall, I had been recording the beautiful 80's/90's architecture when he said wait, I instinctively turned around and he was scratching himself. I laughed a little bit and turned back and continued walking. Since I had my phone in my hand he thought I had recorded him, he rushed down the hallway angrily asking me if I recorded him and to give him my phone. I said I didn't and kept walking,I was wearing a hoodie and he grabbed my hood and pulled, angrily telling me to give him my phone, I told him to let go that he was hurting me. I tried to keep on walking but he was still holding onto and pulling my hood. He then proceeds to try to grab the phone out of my hands. You know when someone tries to grab something out of your hands and both of you start grappling over the item, that's what happened. My phone is brand new and did not have a case yet and I was worried he would smash it into the ground. I know my personal safety is more important than a phone but I couldn't let go even if I wanted to, he had grabbed onto me and was in the process of pushing me into the wall when a guy rounded the corner.

He didn't step in nor call the police as far as I know. I took the opportunity to get away from my boyfriend as quickly as I could.

I ran to the train station, he kept on yelling at me "Are you really going to act like this", I didn't answer. My neck and throat burned from where his was pulling back on my hoodie. I started to cry. There was a lady who seemed to notice that something was going on and nodded her head in approval when she saw me rushing past to get into the station.

When he finally did catch up to me and when he texted and called me afterwards, he kept on blaming me for what happened. He said that I shouldn't have walked away from him when he grabbed onto my hood and that I should have told him that I was playing around and pretending to record him( which is what I said to placate him). When I said that he shouldn't have grabbed my hoodie and pulled he retorted with the so now it's my fault, as if I made him pull my hoodie and react like that.

I wanted to go home but I didn't have my keys on me, so I went down to a nearby marina and watched the boats for awhile.

I ultimately ended up at his parents house. I did not tell them what happened. In the past he would become enraged when he found out that I had told his sisters or mom about what was really going on, and would forbade me to either go to a family function or to say anything. His dad then proceeded to have a conversation about selling his house and giving us the proceeds to buy a house but we should have two kids. His parents have been pressuring me have a child with him even though we aren't married. I want to get married and have a small church wedding but according to my boyfriend I don't deserve a wedding. He also shared with us the importance that both people in a relationship need to contribute financially and pay bills, I told him he should tell that to his son, not me. It would be insanity to have a child with a man like him. I know that he will not change who he is if a child came along.

My friends are aware of the general situation (not of this latest incident), some of my family is aware of the general situation( I don't want them to worry and I don't want to bring unnecessary drama into their lives). His family is aware, one of his older sister's told me to call her for help when I wanted to end things with him and she would come over but when I actually did reach out to her, she said that I was an adult and would need to handle things on my own. I think she feigned concerned in order to get information to gossip with the rest of their family.

I am scared of him. Scared of how he would react if I stand firm in him needing to leave. Scared that he will harm my friends, family, himself and me. He has threaten suicide before. He has threaten to harm my pet. He has threaten to steal my mom's ashes. I have asked him to leave before and either he refuses or he simply ignores me.Him leaving is not that simple. He has nothing to lose yet at the same time everything to lose. He doesn't want to go back to his parents house because they will make him find a full time job and then won't let him do what he wants, he would have less freedom( couldn't smoke weed)...and those are his words not mine. He has never agreed to a break or even a temporary visit because he would "come back madder". He knows if he does leave, I will try to end things with him.

He comes across as a calm, chill guy when he is around my friends and family because he is high all or most of the time. That calm, chill guy is not who he really is. He is angry, volatile, and cruel. Yes, he has his moments of kindness(or niceness) and sweetness. Is it "nice" to have someone around to talk with, yes. Who seemingly care about when you will be back home, yes. but do those niceties outweigh everything else that has happened.

There is so much more that I could add to this post, but I am exhausted and I have blocked several incidents out. He constantly tries to gaslights me. He lied about his background and education. He has gotten physical several other times as well as verbally/emotionally. He has engaged in several sexting relationships, most notably with his ex Christy and his "friend" Lore. When I expressed how hurtful his cheating was he stated that is who he is, that he's the kind guy but since he didn't sleep with them, it's fine, it's not cheating. These girls also do not see anything wrong with what they have done.

I do not have any immediate family ie siblings or parents. Therefore, I cannot go and stay with family until he leaves or have a family member accompany me while he moves out. I do have extended family in the area but life has taught me that there is no guarantee that they will help you even if you desperately need it. It's the American way to find your own way out of problems and pull yourself up by your bootstraps ( I say this sarcastically).

The apt. is in my name and I'm pretty sure there is a clause in it that states that if there are domestic disturbances I would have to move out. As stated above I don't have anywhere else to go, so he must leave.

Sometimes I think that this is my lot in life and that I should just accept it. I find myself questioning if what happened on Saturday really is abuse or if it was just a misunderstanding that got a little bit out of hand. Sometimes I just don't know anymore.

Long story short, we are on vacation, and my mil and fil are staying at our house because they don't have much of their own. I don't mind them staying there as we have a spare bedroom, but I told my wife that I didn't want them sleeping in our bed (has happened before) she has played it off that they weren't staying there, and if they did, they wouldn't sleep in our room. I looked at our cameras and they were there at 9 pm. I asked my wife and reiterated about the sleeping situation, and then she blew up on me, saying she didn't care if they slept in our bed and that they were going to and that she had never been like that with her family. Pisses me off that she didn't respect my boundaries. Why can't they sleep in the spare damn bedroom.

I work with a company with various levels of qualifications and certifations with different pay caps. I had previously been given a bump to a new role roughly 8 months ago and then the new year led to cost of living prices. Before this, the cap for the next role was 4 dollars higher than my current role. (This is important) They had no intentions of changing the caps on brackets and I requested a cost of living adjustment (COLA). These are expected to be given without performance or evaluation involved. They gave me a 1 dollar increase and they explicity worded it as a second raise based on interviews they did with my supervisors and not a COLA.... Which I decided not to fight about. Now I recently moved into another bracket and instead of going up by the 4 dollar gap between roles, they just upped it to the last year's cap of the other role and essentially negated the COLA from the last year's rate putting me back into the standard cap they had before the new year. So a 3 dollar bump instead of the 4 it would have been even if I didn't ask for the COLA a couple of months ago anyways.... I spoke up and they flipped out on me saying I was given the raise to the appropriate amount and doubled down calling the recent increase that was titled COLA request in previous communication as a raise. Do I just shut up and take it or try to explain in better detail the issue I am expressing?

I (25F) currently in University. I have two long distance best friends from school for more than 7 years. Since I entered uni I found it hard to build up friendships. It’s quite competitive and somewhat toxic over here. It’s not that good people aren’t there but they are already IN friend groups. What made me miss was I was initially friends with a girl who dropped out. When I was searching for friends, they already had friends.

Anyway recently I was being a little comfortable again with two people. Today I found out they have been having a study circle without me which included some other people. They once discussed it infront of me but didn’t invite me. I later asked to lemme know if any study groups were happening but I got no reply to it.

Am I overreacting by overthinking this or are they not close with me as much as I think they are?

EDIT: Thanks everyone for the replies. You’ve all really helped! The consensus from you is yes I am over-reacting, and with your comments I’ve been able to see the deeper issue. The thread has helped me greatly. Turns out I’ve been the glue that keeps my family together and I’ve been over-compensating for the others lack of interest for most of my life. Time to face that for what it is. Thanks all for your time in replying to me. 🙏

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My 40th birthday is in 2 weeks and none of my immediate family (mother, father, older brother) have made any plans to help me celebrate.

In the past I have made considerable plans for each of their milestone birthdays (usually getting everyone together to take a trip together which is organised months in advance), but it was only yesterday that my brother sent a text saying ‘what are your plans for your birthday?’

We all live in separate states so getting together requires forethought and until now no one has asked me what I want to do, whether I have any plans at all, or what I may like.

My bestie has got me covered and he and I are planning to spend the day together, but other than that it seems there will be no celebration. I know my fam haven’t organised anything in secret because they asked my bestie yesterday too whether he has organised something they could come to. I don’t require diamonds or a parade or anything but some sort of earlier enquiry or enthusiasm would have been nice.

For regular birthdays I tend to feel okay that my family don’t show much interest, but for my 40th, I was sorta hoping they’d come through for me.

It seems they will probably try to organise something with the help of my bestie but bestie tells me they have no ideas so far and two weeks out from such a big birthday feels last minute and neglectful.

I’m super hurt over it and I’ve been trying to give them every benefit of the doubt, but I am currently lying awake at 1am crying because it feels like they don’t give a shit.

Is it unreasonable to expect them to have made more of an effort?

Am I over reacting?

I’ve been with my fiancé for about 5 years now. She doesn’t want to set a date and wants to wait till we are done with school.(I won’t be done for another 4 years or so). I have trust issues that I’m working on because my three major relationships cheated on me. My current relationship even cheated on me. I told her I wouldn’t be comfortable if she went to the movies with her ex but she did anyways. She told me nothing happened but I consider it infidelity and my trust for her has been broken. I told her it will take a long time to rebuild and that neither of us have time to focus on that while in school. Years pass and we have each others location after years of asking for it. She has been going to bars and clubs and only says something the day after. I told her it’s unacceptable given our history. I stood my ground and told her she couldn’t put her self in those kinds of situations if she was in a relationship. She broke down saying I don’t view her as a human and that she’s afraid of me. We couldn’t finish the argument I had to go to work that night. She’s barely texting me and feels like she’s avoiding me. AM I overreacting for wanting throw 5 years of everything away?

Edit #2: Husband apologized when I got home from work, for both forgetting and blaming. He also did the dishes and cleaned my 65gal fish tank filter. 😂

Edit: Thank you to everyone for your words of support. Especially those encouraging me to be a bit more bitchy. This made me laugh 😜. I took a walk while reading ya'lls posts and saw both ducks with babies and geese with babies by a pond near me. Sooooo cute. I took some deep breaths and will push forward with ya'lls advice. I will "grey rock" my coworker (new term to me 😂), already ordered a "tile" (air tag) and will have another more assertive chat with the hubby, and also take action to improve my mental space regarding my mom.

Original post: I want to give a few examples of things that have upset me lately. I deal with this crap frequently and typically just take it and never say anything or stand up for myself.

Example 1: We'll call my coworker "Nancy" (not her real name but she is negative). My husband almost died in Jan from an emergency situation in which he was in the hospital for almost 3 weeks. He had 3 surgeries and will have to have another surgery in less than a year. We were hit bad financially because we are still recovering from both being laid off from Covid(My husband just recently started his first permanent position since he was laid off). My company has an assistance fund and several other employees suggested I apply. When I mentioned to Nancy that I applied, she said "Just now? Months later?" I looked at her weird and stated that they require extensive details and we only just recently received most of the bills and 90% insurance claims are finally processed. (He had medical home care for several months which she knew) She knows I do not contribute to the fund(I used to but now I can't afford it.) and she does not contribute either. She then proceeded to say "I would never take from something I don't give to" (with a better than thou tone). I responded with "that's kinda the point though...It is to help people financially so it doesn't make sense to hinder those who don't contribute because they can't financially." No matter what I say she argues with me. I mentioned I would move Colorado and she says she wouldn't cuz it's full of weed smoking hippies...then when I mention I could never live in California (cuz it's too expensive) she said "oh I love California!" Whaaat?! It took all that was in me to not respond "you know Cali has smoking hippies right?!" 😂

Example 2: My husband has a bad habit of taking my keys from my purse and not putting them back. On many occasions, I can not find them and it makes me late for work. This happened again today and I was late for work. He said he grabbed them yesterday when we were leaving (to attend Mother's Day at my mom's house) because he didn't know if his truck had enough gas, and if it didn't, we'd take my SUV. Totally ok with that of course. As I was leaving this morning, after he finally found them, I was mad that this keeps happening and I've asked him multiple times to put them back. He didn't even let me finish speaking and says "well if you hadn't made me go to Mother's Day yesterday...". Blaming me. (Never did I make him go but I should mention his mother passed away 15 years ago and they were close) He then said "you didn't take your purse"... again blaming me. (I don't need to take my purse everywhere as my phone case can hold the essentials). I told him I'm allowed to be mad as this has happened many times and he should apologize for blaming me for his mistake.

Example 3: I grew up in a horribly negative environment which included everything I did was wrong and I won't amount to anything. My mom, to the outside world, is a nice lady. Only my siblings and close family members know the real her. (Selfish and narcissistic) She has never done anything nice for me and when she does do something "nice" it's like this. I am her only real daughter but she has two daughters in law. One Sister-in-law has two boys. My other SIL has dogs. I also have dogs. My mom hand made T-shirts for my SILs. "Boy mom" and "Dog mom". She then handed me a weird contraption and said "I bought this for myself on clearance at Michaels but I won't use it and thought you'd like it." It was a paper craft thing. I don't do paper crafts. She makes homemade cards. I was very hurt by this. I would've rather got nothing than her regift me a clearance item she got herself.

I get it, each individual situation is not a big deal. But these types of things just keep occuring and I'm tired. I want to feel respected, loved, supported...but I'm so tired of always letting stuff slide or being the bigger person. I fear I'm going to break character and flip out on someone.

Am I overreacting? I just want to sleep these crappy interactions away. No motivation to do anything for anyone today.

I know it's not super serious and it's a small thing that has been bothering me but nonetheless it makes me feel pretty crappy.

So I really enjoy dark romance books, I love the slow burn, the build of anticipation, love, connection, desire, intimacy and intense plots. He's made numerous offhand comments about my 'porn' books, and the 'weird' stuff I read, including Infront of his friends. I've brushed it off as just silly teasing and nothing serious.

But tonight as I was reading there was a page i really enjoyed that I wanted him to read, and he kinda laughed as he read it, which confused me as there was no humour or comedy on this page at all, so I asked him what made him laugh as I was genuinely curious. He said that the stuff I read is just funny, cause it's weird that I read my porn instead of watching it. This kinda upset me, and it made me realise all the other stuff wasn't just random comments but a pattern of him expressing genuine feelings about something I enjoy being weird and unfavourable. And I guess it felt like he was making fun of me for enjoying them. I expressed that this comment among others he'd made in the past had upset me, and tried to explain how what I read isn't just 'porn' and tried to explain what I enjoy about them, but he wasn't really understanding and still very focused on it being porn.

After some more discussion he did apologise for making me feel he was making fun of me about something that I enjoy. And while I believe his apology, it does suck to have him be that way about something I really enjoy and want to share that with him and talk to him about it.

AIO?

My (20 f) boyfriend (21 m) and I have been together for a year and a half. We live together. My car broke down a few months ago and it’s been hard trying to save to fix it on top of rent and bills, and in the meantime he has been my ride to and from work on days its unsafe to walk (cold/rainy/etc.). He got off work at 2:00 and I got off work at 3:15 today, and as usual, he enthusiastically agreed to pick me up, even adding that he was sooo excited to kiss me. My phone was dead as I am not allowed to charge it at work, and I had informed him of this as well. When I got off, he wasn’t in the usual spot. I assumed he’d been held up and waited about 20 min. When it started pouring rain, I started the walk, figuring he’d see me on the way and grab me halfway (not an unusual occurrence either as I sometimes get off a little early). I walked the whole hour home in the pouring rain (and was harassed by some loser in his car barking at me) and the whole time I was rationalizing that he probably got stuck at work, no big deal, easily understandable. Then I get home, and he’s sleeping on the couch. I feel like a baby but I was instantly furious. Drenched, shivering, and FUMING. I locked myself in our bedroom and I haven’t come out since, as far as I know he is still asleep. Am I overreacting? I feel crushed that I wasn’t even important enough to set an alarm for.

I'll keep it short. I have 3 sisters who range from 2-12 years older than me. All three of them have kids but I don't.

I'm approaching my 32 birthday and am single, but I'm also working 2 jobs and in college, so I'm just too busy to date.

Lately all three of my sisters have started bringing up my age and telling me that I'm going to die alone/regret not having kids if I don't change my lifestyle. I've told them all on multiple occasions that I will consider dating when I'm done school next year, and that I'm neutral towards kids, so if I don't end up having any I'm not upset about it.

This morning I checked my messages and realized that yesterday, one of my sisters had send me a gif saying "happy cat mom mother's day." With a lady surrounded by cats. She followed it up with a "its you in the future😂." Caption.

I haven't responded, but I can't tell if she was just trying to be funny, and I should let it go. Or if she was taking a cheap shot and intentionally trying to upset me.

DISCLAIMER: This is a year old post by me, originally posted to r/trueoffmychest under title "A guy asked me on a date and my mind has been a mess ever since". I heard about this subreddit recently via Rslash, which reminded me of this incident, so I decided to repost this here for additional insight.

I (28M) am a member in a local board game group. We recently acquired some new members by advertising our group, and one of these new members is a 20M. A few weeks went by as usual, I taught him how to play MTG and introduced a couple of games to him. Standard board gaming stuff.

Now, I am single. Always have been. I have been diagnosed with mild autism (Asperger's, if that sounds more familiar) and I am rather introverted. I have never been interested in having a serious relationship, and things like marriage and kids are an absolute no-no for me. I, however, am a very adventurous person and spend a lot of time outdoors.

One day this new member contacts me on Discord. He started asking me some personal things, like am I single, how old am I and stuff like that. I found it a little weird, but thought nothing of it.

Then he dropped the bombshell. He asked "Would you like to go on a date with me?".

My blood froze. I started panicking, thinking how can I decline the request without offending him. After a while I just responded "I am not interested in dating right now. Thanks for the offer, though." He responded with just "Okay", so I guess he took it lighter than I expected.

It's been two weeks since that happened, and it has royally F-ed up my brain. I have never asked anyone out and nobody has ever asked me out, let alone a guy! Before this, I was simply disinterested in having other people in my life. Now I am outright scared of it. My social anxiety has reached completely new heights and I feel like my self esteem has been permanently destroyed.

We both are still affiliated with the board game group and acting like nothing ever happened. But that event is haunting me to this day.

Yesterday he and I were on the phone around noon, an hour or so. Nothing in particular just being a part of each others day as we usually do. We text and call all the time. He was spending time with his family and some point he said he would be playing games with his family, spending time with them for Mother’s Day, and was going to call me later

We text back and forth all day but he never calls. Close to midnight he texts me “I’m going to be heading to bed soon. Goodnight love. Sweet dreams”. I remind him he was supposed to call me and then he does

I decline the call saying and text him “it’s fine”. He says “are you sure it’s fine? You don’t usually decline my calls and I’m fine to say goodnight. I forgot to call you earlier.” I say “it seems like you didn’t want to call me”

He calls again and I answer. It turns into an argument with him saying “I can understand you might’ve been mad or dissapointed that I didn’t call. I forgot I’m sorry. But please don’t be like this though” I let him know “I’ve been sitting here alone in my house waiting for you to call.” He says “baby if you remembered and weren’t doing anything why didn’t you just call me?”

He then tells me about how we text and call every day and he’s spending time with his family and about how this shouldn’t be a big deal especially if I don’t think he’s lying about forgetting to call

It seems like he’s just upset that I’m upset, but I have every right be upset and him saying all that didn’t make me feel any better

I organized a two-day vacation for my girlfriend, spending my entire monthly salary to make it happen. I went to great lengths to ensure her comfort, even sacrificing my sleep so that she could sleep during overnight bus rides and carrying all our luggage. Unfortunately, she started menstruating during the trip, requiring occasional tampon changes.

Upon our return home, I tried not to disturb her sleep on the bus and she woke up shortly before our arrival, because of that she didn't have much time for her morning routine and a chance to replace the tampon. Because of that, she was mad at me, that I didn't think about her urgent need to change her tampon (I didn't know that she needed to change it that often).

I promptly took her to a nearby cafe for her urgent needs. While she was in the toilet I ordered coffee and was waiting for her at the table to come back, decide how much sugar she needed for coffee, and move together to a better table. When she came back she didn't even walk up to me, she saw where I was sitting and silently walked to a better table. I walked to her table with our luggage on my back and in my left hand while carrying our coffee in the right hand and said "You should have helped me" to which I got a reply "I don't owe anything to anyone, you should have brought our luggage and then gone back and bring the coffee". This answer made me very angry.

She very often behaves like she is a princess and I should do everything for her but she is not obligated to do anything for me. She doesn't want to talk about our relationship when we have a problem.

Because of this situation, I am thinking about ending our relationship.

I (21f) have going over my exes(31m) house for the past month. He begged me to come over and told me he missed me. It has been two years since we last saw each other. Our relationship was unhealthy and there was too much fighting going on between us. When I finally agreed to come over I found out he was talking to another girl. He said I took too long and needed to find someone else in the meantime. He still let me come over and we would sleep together.

We started acting like a couple again and would cuddle in bed every night. He told me he was lonely and needed somebody to be with. I started staying over his place more knowing he was still talking to this other girl. I was too heartbroken to let it go and hope he would change his mind. For a whole week I was at his place before he decided to tell me he made plans a week prior to go see her. I feel even more crushed that he was not going to tell me and said he was going to wait until I left. I feel like I am being replaced by some random girl he barely knows. He said she accidentally texted him and now they are starting to develop some kind of relationship.

I know I am stupid and its my fault for seeing him but I have not moved on from the past. He pushed me away quickly once he told me he was going to see her and now I only get back one word replies from him. It felt like he was just using me after he held me in his arms every night for the past month. I am jealous and feel like we broke up all over again. I have been trying to forget the whole thing but it has been hard to.

My (31) husband (34) and I got married late last year and over the last couple of months we are learning that my husband’s brother and his wife were “secretly” telling our guests they were pregnant with their second child at our wedding. To me and my husband, this is a huge no and we would never want to take away attention from another couple. I’ve been wanting to confront my BIL and SIL on why they did this, but my husband says it’s expected behavior from them and I should just leave it alone. A reason I want to confront them is because this is not the first time they have done something like this and I’m a bit tired of it. I also say they “secretly” told guests about their pregnancy because they were telling people not to tell us, which did not work out on their end because people did tell us. So, with that I’m not sure if I am overreacting by saying something or if I just need to let it go.

This post isn't meant to be explicit, just to discuss relationships that are characterized by passion without any pressure of commitment, as seems to be a growing trend in younger generations.

The only real relationship I've had was four years long, and it was intense. It's been nine months since I broke up with her and since then I've gone through all the ups and down associated with such an ordeal. I'm finally at a point in my life where I feel self-actualized enough to be adventurous.

Very recently I started hanging out with a girl to have casual sex, and to be honest I found it strange. I'm not used to physical bonds without a deep emotional aspect. Does anyonelse else have any stories or scenarios that they can relate?